Boyfriend comparing me to other women

[BusyAmy]

Hi all, I have noticed a bit of an annoying trend with my Boyfriend of about 10 months and would welcome second opinions on whether I’m overreacting or not.

Often, when he is browsing his phone, he will point out characteristics of something he has seen and mention to me e.g can you wear something like that.

The thing is, these are never ‘fashion’ images if that makes sense but will be things like a woman on his Facebook feed wearing a tight leather skirt on a night out, or someone in a barely there bikini in their holiday photos.

I snapped last night because the image he showed me was of someone on instagram wearing all in one lingerie with huge heels stood next to a pole and he asked why I don’t wear anything like that (um, I’m carrying a few extra pounds and can’t walk in them!), it was an airbrushed image so probably some model and it just made me feel really dirty that he’s looking at this sort of stuff and making comparisons with me.

His response was that he was only being light hearted and he ‘obviously’ only has eyes for me, and that the model image just came up on his feed and isn’t someone he follows.

I’d dump him.

Ditch him. He's not a keeper. You deserve better.

Just scroll yourself & show pictures of buff men with shorts open showing their 6 packs & tiny shorts highlighting a big package & say "why can't you wear that"?

Bin...next

Then dump him

Tell him to f off or similar words of your choosing. Permanently.

YABU for having such low standards for who you have a relationship with.

God, there's millions of men on the planet - throw this one back.
Look at it this way, it's so blatantly obvious that this is creepy AND rude that if he genuinely doesn't realise, he's very stupid. Do you want to be with someone whose actually lacking in intelligence in this way?

I would have to get rid of this loser.
Y A N B U

One remark is a joke, lots of them are him being an arse

Bleugh. Dump him.

This feels like a form of negging to me.
He's not oblivious, he knows exactly what he's doing and how it'll be making you feel. He wants you to feel that.
Probably because he's insecure himself,
doesn't really matter why though, men of that caliber are to be avoided.
People capable of healthy loving relationships don't do this kind of stuff.
I'd be out.

In the bin with him.

Thick as shit.

do the exact same thing back to him to show him how annoying it is he'll soon stop doin g it

No, you’re not overreacting, but of course you already know that.

He’s a asshole, I would dump him but not before I showed him some images of male models wearing skimpy / out there outfits and asked him why can’t he look / dress like them.
This man / boy hasn’t a clue how to treat women

Agree

This would really annoy me OP. Make it clear that if he keeps doing this he'll be dumped.

I like this idea!

Obviously he doesn't just have eyes for you: Obviously he spends his time perving on other women.
Why do you want to be with someone who is purposely trying to destroy your self confidence and make you feel second best to all the other women he is enjoying looking at.
You would be better off without him.
No woman needs a man like this.

So he wants to choose your outfits to play dress up like you're a blow up doll as opposed to a human being? Nice. You're just his bit of porn fluff really.

I'd spend the next few days thinking up some humiliatingly awful ways to dump him...choose one...then do it.

How disrespectful of him. Either he's very daft or he's doing it on purpose to make you feel insecure. Either way you should dump him. Life is too short to be treated like shit from people who are supposed to make us feel good about ourselves.

Dump!

Oh ffs. Why oh bloody why do women give scrotes like these the time of day? Let alone be in relationships with them… Wake up op. He’s a piece of slime. You don’t need to waste your life on him. Aim higher.

For this sort of stuff to be coming up on his feed, he's liking/ following/ engaging with it in some way. The algorithm pushes content based on what you interact with - it's quite telling how he views women. This isn't a relationship I would continue with, personally.