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To casually explain a normal part of an animals reproductive process to a child in public

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SpringSunshineanddaffodils · 08/04/2025 17:20

At a farm park today and while looking at the newborn lambs and the very pregnant sheep my DD (7) asked "how do her babies get out of her tummy" and I answered "she pushes them out of her vagina, like we do" DD said "oh" and that was that.
I glanced up and noticed an older couple next to me with what I assume were their grandchildren giving each other shocked glances.
We moved on and I don't think they knew we were still nearby because I heard her say something like "what is wrong with people, children have got no innocence any more"
WIBU to have explained this in public in this way?

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ToBeOrNotToBee · 08/04/2025 17:21

It's a farm, what we're they expecting.

SneakyGremlin · 08/04/2025 17:21

That's quite literally how nature works, including us - we are also animals after all. YANBU.

Pieceofskyplease · 08/04/2025 17:23

The pregnant ewe might have pushed one out there and then. Would they have squealed and run away ? Tbf my kids' grandparents on DH side would have
They're so prudish

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 08/04/2025 17:24

Well - I don’t think the stork delivers to sheep, @SpringSunshineanddaffodils, so I don’t think you did anything wrong! As a granny myself, I’d have thought well done you for answering the question clearly.

marmaladeandpeanutbutter · 08/04/2025 17:25

An increasingly annoying and stupid phrase is “what is wrong with people “. So I vote YANBU on that alone, regardless of the debate. I agree with you on that too.

Apollo365 · 08/04/2025 17:26

This did make me LOL.
Farms/pets - nature doesn’t care.
When I was a child I knew exactly what my Guinea pigs were up to when they were getting busy.
My own children know what is happening when our dog is in season.
YANBU to explain stuff to your child

Mudflaps · 08/04/2025 17:36

Reminds me of visiting a pet farm with my niece when she was about 4 years old, some animals got busy and my niece piped up with 'ah must be mating season'!! She also contradicted a mother who pointed out a 'mammy duck with her babies' by saying 'that's a drake actually' before saying she wanted to go see the owls facial disc!! My parents looked after her while her parents worked and there was a lot of national geographic documentaries watched along with my fathers bird watching magazines and books being firm favourites for story time.

Notsosure1 · 08/04/2025 17:39

How old were the grandchildren? Same age as your daughter or 2-3ish?

SpringSunshineanddaffodils · 08/04/2025 17:46

Notsosure1 · 08/04/2025 17:39

How old were the grandchildren? Same age as your daughter or 2-3ish?

I wasn't paying much attention but I'd probably say slightly younger than DD, maybe 5-6ish?

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derxa · 08/04/2025 17:55

SpringSunshineanddaffodils · 08/04/2025 17:20

At a farm park today and while looking at the newborn lambs and the very pregnant sheep my DD (7) asked "how do her babies get out of her tummy" and I answered "she pushes them out of her vagina, like we do" DD said "oh" and that was that.
I glanced up and noticed an older couple next to me with what I assume were their grandchildren giving each other shocked glances.
We moved on and I don't think they knew we were still nearby because I heard her say something like "what is wrong with people, children have got no innocence any more"
WIBU to have explained this in public in this way?

Never in my 66 years have I heard anyone say vagina in relation to a sheep. And I’ve seen 1000’s of sheep’s vaginas🤣

Marylou62 · 08/04/2025 17:57

No you were not being unreasonable at all... I've always been honest and answered questions with the truth and proper terminology..
But this did remind me of a story my parents told often..
At a farm/petting zoo my DD aged about 4 said very loudly 'Grandad, why has the donkey got 5 legs?'..
Apparently the crowd was in stitches.. apart from one older couple who tutted and walked away in a huff..

BoredZelda · 08/04/2025 17:57

Why do you care what they thought? Would you change what you said?

JeremiahBullfrog · 08/04/2025 17:58

Two hundred years ago every child knew this.

RobertaFirmino · 08/04/2025 17:59

derxa · 08/04/2025 17:55

Never in my 66 years have I heard anyone say vagina in relation to a sheep. And I’ve seen 1000’s of sheep’s vaginas🤣

How would you refer to it? Is it called the 'birth canal' or something like that?

Monvelo · 08/04/2025 18:01

Ha ha no it's fine imo. This is an opportunity to share that my 10 year old just explained wet dreams to my 7 year old, which was a bit unexpected! Apparently they covered it at school today...

MrsHamlet · 08/04/2025 18:02

derxa · 08/04/2025 17:55

Never in my 66 years have I heard anyone say vagina in relation to a sheep. And I’ve seen 1000’s of sheep’s vaginas🤣

One of my my farming lads referred to "t'yow's passage"

FOJN · 08/04/2025 18:03

derxa · 08/04/2025 17:55

Never in my 66 years have I heard anyone say vagina in relation to a sheep. And I’ve seen 1000’s of sheep’s vaginas🤣

I'm now resisting the impulse to Google and find out if ewes vaginas are called something else.

NotDarkGothicMama · 08/04/2025 18:03

YANBU. It's not a dirty secret, just a normal part of life.

Shelllendyouhertoothbrushtoo · 08/04/2025 18:04

The sheep fairy godmother comes and cleanly magics them from the mummy onto the grass next to her. Then they start a country dance to celebrate the occasion.

Why would facts ruin a child's innocence? My son asked me loudly in a swimming pool queue if babies come out of your tummy button. I told him we'd discussed this and they come out of the mum's vagina or can be cut out of the tummy sometimes. He asked me if he could see my vagina. I stopped it there obviously.

LordEmsworth · 08/04/2025 18:07

Aibu... To casually explain a normal part of an animal's reproductive process to a child in public* *

Thanks for clarifying that the child in question was, in fact, your own and not a random one you buttonholed for a "casual explanation"😁

SpringSunshineanddaffodils · 08/04/2025 18:08

BoredZelda · 08/04/2025 17:57

Why do you care what they thought? Would you change what you said?

Natural curiosity and no.

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Snorlaxo · 08/04/2025 18:09

Yanbu

I don’t understand how knowing scientific info like that equals a loss of innocence.

Miaowzabella · 08/04/2025 18:12

No doubt that lady's children and grandchildren were conceived and born by intervention of the Holy Ghost.

SparkyBlue · 08/04/2025 18:13

JeremiahBullfrog · 08/04/2025 17:58

Two hundred years ago every child knew this.

Absolutely this. It's ridiculous that people equate knowing basic facts about the human body as somehow loosing innocence or some such nonsense. They'd have a heart attack in my house as autistic 9 year old DS loves facts and is a fountain of knowledge on all sorts of random stuff

derxa · 08/04/2025 18:14

RobertaFirmino · 08/04/2025 17:59

How would you refer to it? Is it called the 'birth canal' or something like that?

We don’t call it anything because there’s no need. I’m sure the vet would use’vagina’ in unusual circumstances such as anatomical abnormality.