Trying to figure out if I'm being unreasonable here. I'm part of a group of friends, we have known each other since school, but I suspect that there is a lot of nastiness going on, particularly involving two members of the group. I have witnessed them being really spiteful about another group member I'm unsure as to whether I should distance myself from them.
I have a DS who has just turned 2, and one of the 'mean' group members (let's call her Tracy) has a DS who has turned 5 approx a week and a half after my DSs birthday.
3 years ago Tracy created a WhatsApp group containing instructions for me and other 'mean' friend Rosie on how to look after her DS for a day while she was in hospital having her DD. The group hasn't been used for 3 years and I'd forgotten about it.
Last week Rosie resurrects this group out of nowhere to say that she has left a birthday gift for Tracy's DS on her doorstep. I thought it was odd that she would do this, especially because I'm in the group and she hadn't bought a gift for my DS a week and a half before. I can't think of any scenario where she would do this by accident, you would have to search for the group and actively make an effort to post in it. Rosie was definitely aware that it was my DSs birthday a week and a half before.
Part if me doesn't trust them anymore and feel like it was a dig/trying to make a point. I just want to add that in no wat is this me being materialistic and expecting gifts from people, I just don't understand why she wouldn't just message Tracy directly. I have had bad vibes from them in the past, and am seriously considering distancing myself.