Im in the middle of a divorce and for context there has been verbal and emotional abuse /coercive control/DA throughout the entirety of the relationship. Occasionally physical abuse. He has already had anger management, individual therapy and we tried couples therapy during the marriage and nothing really improved long term.
He was arrested and removed from the family home last year after throwing objects at me while driving in a speeding car with our 2 children in the back. (We separated shortly after the incident) While he was on bail he could still see the children via a 3rd party but I was advised by a solicitor to stop contact unless its a contact centre due to behaviours exhibited towards me, around the children, and to the children in the case of verbal abuse/neglect/slamming/banging and poking.
I requested proof of therapy from him via a 3rd party to then set up consistent visits with the children but this was ignored. I submitted a contact centre application but he refused that as well.
CPS charged him but he was found not guilty of assault by beating in the end (due to the objects hitting me, the only thing he was charged with).
Now he is sending me emails from.his solicitor asking for child contact now that he got found notnguulty from this 1 incident, but I still dont have any accountability or proof his behaviour is changing. He just wants it all on his terms.
Am i right to push back and reaffirn what I already said, either proof of therapy, contact centre, or go through court/CAFCASS?
My children are my focus and I dont want my children exposed if I can help it unless court ordered