AIBU to insist on buying a house with two floors instead of three.

[MsBxy]

DH and I are looking to buy a 3- bed house as our current 2-bed flat is now too small for us. We have 4 year old and a 1 year old.
I’ve said I will not be comfortable with a situation where we are on a different floor to the children as they are still so young. So I’ve asked that we look for houses with only two floors (all 3 bedrooms on the first floor) or a house with three floors with the master bedroom and sizable second room (children’s room) on the topmost floor.

My husband disagrees and thinks it’s not a problem for the children to sleep on the first floor while we sleep on the topmost floor saying we have baby monitors anyway.

Another issue is that he is the type who loves to have people over for days, so parents, siblings, cousins etc. I also can’t imagine leaving my children on a separate floor with guests in the guest bedroom next to them.

Am I being unreasonable and overly anxious? Or do I have a point in wanting to be closer to the children.

We were on three floors with tiny ones. They had the top floor and we were beneath them. This meant that we could heard them if they got out of bed, or were upset. It also meant that the spare room was on the same floor as us. It worked well for us then, but perhaps a house with better sound insulation between floors or even carpets down would not have worked so well.

I think you are being overly anxious.

I’d probably prefer to keep a toddler on the same floor as I wouldn’t want them trying to contend with the stairs if waking up and wanting to find me.

But - a stair gate would stop that issue anyway.

I wouldn’t be at all worried about a four year old being on another floor.

I wouldn’t have them on a different floor at that age. Could they share a room until they are a little bit older?