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To think that women don't actually need 2000kcal a day

306 replies

Croissantsfordinner · 07/04/2025 08:57

I am barely losing weight eating 1600kcal a day and most of the people I know who are slim and fit definitely do not eat 2000kcal (I am referring to family, friends, colleagues, what I read here on MN and also celebrities diet, lol). So where does this guideline come from?
Unless you are almost an athlete, I don't think all those calories are actually needed, AIBU?

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FortyElephants · 07/04/2025 12:30

Heidi1976 · 07/04/2025 10:00

It's completely generalised. You need to calculate your personal BMR to work out your required calorie intake to maintain or lose weight.

TDEE not BMR

rosemarble · 07/04/2025 12:32

CoffeeCantata · 07/04/2025 12:10

Maybe - I'm not an expert on this. But I know that, personally, I can't have 3 meals a day of any sort of normal portion and maintain a healthy weight. I'm older now, and though i'm active (lots of walking, gardening, DIY), I don't think I could cope with the sort of exercise levels which would allow me to eat 3 substantial meals a day. A banana is my breakfast when I have any. I just can't use up the calories to allow any more than that.

High days and holidays are different, of course - but I then need to lose the weight I've gained afterwards.

I'm post menopausal. I do lots of exercise.
I don't think it's news that older, more sedentary people don't need to eat as much, but they can still have a light breakfast and lunch and a larger meal at dinner time.

TravellingLightToday · 07/04/2025 12:42

The amount of calories needed to maintain one's weight depends on a number of variables: age, height, weight, gender and activity level..

Here is a good calculator to use

https://www.bbc.co.uk/food/articles/how_many_calories_do_you_need

The tricky bit is assessing your activity level accurately, especially in the range of light to moderate levels of activity, where most of us place ourselves.

Monitoring food intake can also be tricky. Even pre-packaged food labelling allows for a margin of error, let alone home-made food where each ingredient needs to be weighed and logged separately.

To lose weight, you'd need to be in calorie deficit (e.g. -20-25% from your maintenance level) - not massive, so your body does not go into starvation mode and try to put every calorie in storage.

That works for me, female, age 53, moderate activity. Maintenance level of calories = 2034 (or thereabouts) and I lose weight slowly if I go down to about 1600 consistently. At this age losing muscle mass is a risk factor of weight loss, so stimulating your muscles is important. Weight training + sufficient amounts of protein would be the way to go alongside dieting.

How many calories do I need?

How many calories do I need?

Use this calculator to find out how many calories you need to maintain your current weight. Then reduce that figure by up to 500 calories a day to start losing weight safely.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/food/articles/how_many_calories_do_you_need

rosemarble · 07/04/2025 12:44

Bogginsthe3rd · 07/04/2025 12:05

I think most people in the sendentary economy don't need many kcal. We are not dry stone wallers working in the Shetlands for 10 hours a day. Most people are Sandra in accounts having a pret coffee and croissant for breakfast and considering a KFC wrap at lunch. Personally I don't know how people can put it all away. I have a herbal tea at breakfast to stimulate my metabolism and a boiled egg or chicken thigh with some light herb sauce for lunch to avoid bloating. This is more than enough before an evening meal.

I have a sedentary job. I also do a lot of exercise. How do you know what Sandra in accounts does before or after work?
And I don't think most people are having a croissant for breakfast and KFC for lunch.
A cup of tea and a boiled egg is not enough to keep a person full and well all day.

Theworldisinyourhands · 07/04/2025 12:45

Yeh I'm 5 ft 2 and tbh the only time I've successfully lost any weight is by eating a depressing 500-800 calories a day and exercising a few times a week too. I reckon my actual metabolic rate is around 1200-1500. Even at times I've piled weight on I don't believe that I regularly exceed 2000 tbh

Doitrightnow · 07/04/2025 12:46

I assume the 2000 is an average, and as per pps have said, we are all different.

I don't calorie count and have always been thin and active. I have big portions in general at dinner and "eat what I like", but what I like is mostly home-cooked and healthy. I just did a rough calculation of what I expect to eat today and it came to about 1700 cal. Given the propensity to underestimate, I don't think 2000 sounds unreasonable.

CrotchetyQuaver · 07/04/2025 12:49

It depends on what you do each day. According to my Fitbit I burn around 2700 calories average daily most weeks. When I was heavier, I compromised on aiming to eat a max of 2000 calories a day and I lost 1lb a week doing that. Any less and I don't think there would have been enough fuel in the tank to keep up energy levels.

Minikievs · 07/04/2025 12:50

I think you’re right. I’m mid 40s, 5’7, do 15k steps a day, go to the gym 5-6 times a week. I need 1600-1700 to maintain my weight.

PickAChew · 07/04/2025 12:50

It was fine for me when I was younger and less creaky and not far above what I consume now as a less active 5'4 50-something with a BMI of 22 that hasn't changed in 3 years.

PoppyBaxter · 07/04/2025 12:52

TravellingLightToday · 07/04/2025 12:42

The amount of calories needed to maintain one's weight depends on a number of variables: age, height, weight, gender and activity level..

Here is a good calculator to use

https://www.bbc.co.uk/food/articles/how_many_calories_do_you_need

The tricky bit is assessing your activity level accurately, especially in the range of light to moderate levels of activity, where most of us place ourselves.

Monitoring food intake can also be tricky. Even pre-packaged food labelling allows for a margin of error, let alone home-made food where each ingredient needs to be weighed and logged separately.

To lose weight, you'd need to be in calorie deficit (e.g. -20-25% from your maintenance level) - not massive, so your body does not go into starvation mode and try to put every calorie in storage.

That works for me, female, age 53, moderate activity. Maintenance level of calories = 2034 (or thereabouts) and I lose weight slowly if I go down to about 1600 consistently. At this age losing muscle mass is a risk factor of weight loss, so stimulating your muscles is important. Weight training + sufficient amounts of protein would be the way to go alongside dieting.

This calculator correctly calculates my BMI, but tells me I need 2127 calories a day to maintain. Absolutely no chance. 1500 to maintain is more realistic.

ItsUpToYou · 07/04/2025 12:53

I think we’re a lot more sedentary now than we were whenever those guidelines came into play. Most of us probably don’t need that many nowadays.

Bumbleebeetree · 07/04/2025 12:53

I need loads more!!! I'm always hungry!

Trety · 07/04/2025 12:54

I have a BMI of 22 and can’t go over 1650 on a regular basis or I gain weight. I don’t calorie count all the time but use an app to do it if my weight goes up, and that shows me where I am going wrong. 2000 would be lovely but we are all different, and the lower your weight goes the lower your TDEE goes too (as very big people burn more calories just when moving, as they are carrying all that weight around it takes energy to maintain it too)

ArseofOrion · 07/04/2025 12:58

I’d say it’s way too much for the average woman. I’m slim and run 3 times a week (5/10k) and I’d say I have around 1500 per day

MaryBeardsShoes · 07/04/2025 13:00

WE’VE LOST SIGHT OF WHAT A HEALTHY BODY LOOKS LIKE.

Icanttakethisanymore · 07/04/2025 13:00

90% of women are between 4ft11 and 5ft8 (apparently) with 5% below 4ft11 and 5% about 5ft8). That's a big range. A sedentary 4ft11 woman is going to require far fewer calories than an active (not an athlete) 5ft8 woman.

I'm 5ft7, I'm quite active and I probably need to eat about 2000 calories to maintain my weight. Given I am taller than average and lots of people will be more sedentary than me then I guess it follows that lots of people would put on weight eating 2000 calories.

Cantbebotheredwithausername · 07/04/2025 13:06

I'm 5'6 (168 cm) with a BMI og 24-25. I do rock climbing three times a week for exercise, as well as the occasional long walk og run (desk job and car commute, though). I've tried calorie counting. I definitely need 2000 kcal to maintain my weight. At 1600 I'm starving and losing weight fast.

TravellingLightToday · 07/04/2025 13:08

PoppyBaxter · 07/04/2025 12:52

This calculator correctly calculates my BMI, but tells me I need 2127 calories a day to maintain. Absolutely no chance. 1500 to maintain is more realistic.

What's your activity level?

LolaLouise · 07/04/2025 13:11

PoppyBaxter · 07/04/2025 12:52

This calculator correctly calculates my BMI, but tells me I need 2127 calories a day to maintain. Absolutely no chance. 1500 to maintain is more realistic.

I always look at the sedentary one, and then add back anything "earned" though activity, rather than use the calculators estimates for activity levels as it obviously fluctuates. Mine is still horribly low though even adding back activity.

Mummyslittlegiraffe · 07/04/2025 13:13

YANBU for many, but as an active women in my mid-40s, maintainance is around 2400 for me. I’m 5’8 and bmi of 19. On my recent skiing holiday I upped this to 3000 and still lost during the week.

PoppyBaxter · 07/04/2025 13:13

TravellingLightToday · 07/04/2025 13:08

What's your activity level?

Around 10 hours a week (a combination of weight training, hiking up hills wearing a weighted vest and running).

PoppyBaxter · 07/04/2025 13:14

LolaLouise · 07/04/2025 13:11

I always look at the sedentary one, and then add back anything "earned" though activity, rather than use the calculators estimates for activity levels as it obviously fluctuates. Mine is still horribly low though even adding back activity.

I just get it calculated properly at the gym.

2andadog · 07/04/2025 13:15

PoppyBaxter · 07/04/2025 13:13

Around 10 hours a week (a combination of weight training, hiking up hills wearing a weighted vest and running).

I'd almost guarantee you're not maintaining on 1500cals with that activity level unless you're seriously small/running in a depleted state a lot? Do you recover quickly?

I reckon there could be some undercalculating of cals consumed somewhere?

HazelShark · 07/04/2025 13:21

2000 is about right for me. 5'7, 9 stone, late 20s. Get my 10,000 steps but otherwise not very active

People are so varied though. And diet culture has a lot to answer for in terms of messed up metabolisms!

LolaLouise · 07/04/2025 13:22

PoppyBaxter · 07/04/2025 13:14

I just get it calculated properly at the gym.

The gyms are no different to calculators available online, they use the same equations to calculate if you know your body fat % to make them more accurate, and your activity levels still fluctuate daily. If you are tracking calories, it is always better to use the sedentary rate and add back calories from exercise daily.