Me and my partner went to go visit my best friend and her partner for the weekend on the other side of the country. Taking advantage of the good weather, they had planned to go for a hike and enjoy being outside. Unfortunately my friend twisted her ankle a few days before so said when we got there that she wouldn't be able to do a big walk but we'll do something low key instead. Not a problem, I'm very easy going and grateful to them for hosting.
My friends partner is an outdoor instructor- climbing, caves, boats etc. As an option my friend said we could go to a beauty spot and abseil off a bridge. She said 'you can say no, no pressure at all'. I said 'sounds fine. My partner will love that. Not for me at all but I'll enjoy watching'
Now my friend text her partner as they were our saying 'BlueRobin is a maybe, will see how she feels' and I said quite firmly no I won't be doing it. And she looked at me and giggled as if to make me think I'm being silly.
My friend and I have been friends for 12+ years. She knows I don't enjoy heights or anything related to those activity adventure things. I would freak out and get upset and be no fun for anyone. When we were setting off, they said oh we'll put in an extra harness and helmet just in case. And when we got there, they kept saying how fun it would be. When my partner and her partner walked back to the car to get the equipment, he ended up saying look 'TheBlueRobin definitely won't do this. You don't need to keep asking'.
I didn't do it, but I helped out with sorting ropes and getting some good footage, it was nice to watch. It just irritated me a bit that I said no and didn't feel listened to. I think my friend was more concerned about her partner's feelings than what I felt comfortable with.
On the whole we had a nice weekend and I don't expect to feel pandered to, but was surprised at their attitudes.
AIBU to feel a bit irritated by this?