FWB acting weird ?

[Prettygirlmia]

So I’ve hooked up with this man twice in the course of a year. Every time we’ve hooked up he’s kinda became controlling and possessive
The first time we hooked up he tried to snatch my phone out of my hand. The second time we hooked up which was a couple months ago, he called me the next day questioning me and where I was, and said I needed to go home.

Make a long story short I ran into him at the club yesterday night. It took him 5 minutes to speak to me despite him standing right next to me? Keep in mind he was just commenting and hearting my pictures on social media the day before this….. He was laughing hard we a group of gals and kept staring at me? He then decided to come say hi with a hug. Men were on my body last night so I was getting a lot of action. Me and this attractive man started talking and in the mist of me talking to this other man he starts staring at us the whole time? He was like watching us like a hawk and whispering to his homie, which was kinda rude ……. Then he decided to leave the club right after that? I walk out side and that’s where he approached me asking me what I’m doing after this etc…

Why do men act so weird? Why can’t we all be cool especially if it’s just casual….. this was a silly post but I’m just noticing men can’t just be normal…

What do y’all think?

You just have a play by play of his actions throughout the night... He was probably wondering why you were watching him and his actions so intently. Why were you?

You sound very young and perhaps a bit naive (sorry if I am wrong about this) but if he is already being weird, playing mind games and showing possessive and aggressive traits then I would stay well clear. No more sex or contact - make it clear and unambiguous - otherwise he could escalate.

Does he know he's just a fwb? Either way, this is worrying behaviour from him and you should just cut him off and not waste anymore thought on it

The middle aged woman in me wants clarification on what "men were on my body" means 😆

So many red flags. Leave this man alone. Stop acting out in front of him and definitely don't get involved with him. But you seem to be enjoying all the attention from him.

He’s not a friend, and I’m not sure what benefits he brings you. This just leaves the ‘with’ and I’d strongly suggest you turn it into a ‘without’ before he boils your bunny.
He sounds like a possessive loser, keep away from him.

Is he not just a mildly odd bloke you’ve slept with twice?

Though, ‘men were on my body so I was getting a lot of action’ sounds exhausting. Does your club involve you carrying around multiple men?

It sounds to me like you were the one who was 'acting weird' and enjoy drawing attention to yourself.

’men were on my body last night, so I was getting a lot of action’ this is in a club???Goodness me the club scene has changed since my days!

He just sounds like one of the guys you've had casual sex with . Why are you describing him as a FWB?

Having casual sex with men inevitably means you'll come across some weird and unpleasant people.
So surely you just avoid and ignore him in future?

What kind of club was this? Doesn't sound like a country club

Never fails to amaze me what some women will put up with in the hope of attention. Stop provoking this guy, he sounds dangerous and you sound a little unhinged. Keep yourself safe.

Men were on my body last night so I was getting a lot of action.

Take a look at yourself.
Clearly you're an attention seeker, for want of a better word. You must have spent as much of your evening watching him to be noticing what he was doing.

I conclude it’s a club where women carry around multiple men for some kind of slightly weird workout. Maybe the OP was doing jump squats with a couple of men slung around her shoulders in the fireman’s lift.

You sound very immature, and these sorts of scenarios are how trouble starts.

Maybe the club was the masons? Don't they have weird rituals giving each other piggybacks and such?

What's the benefit to this guy?

How is he a Friend?

FWB needs both, and I see none.

FGS raise your bar.

In what way is this man a “friend”? He sounds like someone you’ve simply had sex with a couple of times.
This whole thing is weird to me, why, on a night out with friends, were you monitoring this man’s actions and behaviour so closely instead of socialising with your friends?
I find it hard to believe this was written by a grown woman.

From what you have said I feel like you was maybe antagonising him a little deliberately by letting men be all over you, knowing he was staring and because of his previous behaviour, I mean red flags with this guy 110% I’d delete and block him because if it’s FWB then he shouldn’t be acting the way he is and this will get worse.

So it took you over 5 minutes to speak to him also? You were the one who noticed him standing next to you and didn't speak to him. That's weird. And then you seem to notice his every move all night. You notice and remember who likes and comments on your social media. You notice that he is talking to other women. You sound very self obsessed and quite hung up on him. He also sounds like a twat to be fair. So stop sleeping and engaging with men who are twats and stop being one yourself. You'll probably find life will get simpler.

Are you 15 or what?

This is not a FWB, just a man you’ve hooked up with a couple of times.