Parents house is falling apart but they keep supporting my brother.

[Jd27apple]

When I was very young I had a child. My brother i believed i had too much help from my parents. Car and apartment so forth. I was 17 untill maybe 22 or 23. After that I financially supported myself my parents occasionally gifted me with with a down payment, which I didn't need, for a house or new fridge and granite for my new house. About 10 years ago. Other than that I think I haven't asked them for anything nor have they given me anything.
My brother has resented me for that even though he has lived in my parents flat for years without paying. Then moved into my parents home without paying. And he didn't want to leave so they bought him a house which he couldn't pay my mom back so he moved into a house that was falling apart on some land while my mom recouperates her money from the house she bought. He now claims the land and the house she bought. My brother does not work has his second kid on the way and does not want to leave the land.
I say this because my parents house is falling apart. They literally put a bucket in bed when it rains. They are almost done paying off two 4 unit flats. Selling the land would pay these off now instead of 10 years. Oh my brothers car died so they gave him their car. Now they only have one beat up vehicle. My dad had a knee infection and hasn't been able to walk in 4 months. Will have a knee replacement soon. My parents save food because they think they will run out of money. Any extra money they have goes in repairing the flats. It's sad. They say he isn't asking them for money yet my dad gives him money out of his check.
I want them to sell everything and spend the money on themselves and not save it for my brother or myself. I feel defeat. And broken for being so jealous that my brother does not work, lives care free and my parents are in denial of their house falling apart. I'm I the unreasonable one? Should I just let them all live their lives and let them live like this.

There is a fair amount of sibling rivalry here - your DB resents you for help when you were young and had a child; you resent him now for being workless and carefree and living at your parents’ expense. How can your brother claim the house and the land if your parents bought it? Unless his name is on the deeds, he has no claim to it. From your DP’s point of view, though, what would happen to your brother if they sell this land? I don’t think they would want him to move back in with them; clearly they are not in a position to support him financially, but it would be a rare parent who would see their child out on the street. If you are in a position to do so, you could consider paying your parents back for the down payment/fridge/granite to ease their standard of living. But stop being envious of your brother - seems to me your parents have helped you both out as much as they can.

Your parents are guilty of overindulgence of their DC to their own detriment. You and your brother have both taken too much support from your parents. You didn't need to take money for granite and your brother needs to get a job.

You're not being unreasonable but you probably won't be able to get them to change and it might not be worth trying too much.
If they don't get repairs done to their house though, things will get worse and they'll incur higher costs, especially for things like a leaky roof.
You can try to talk to them about it, but if they don't listen you will just have to accept it and let them get on with it.