Differing standards male vs female

[Tazzauk]

Today in staff room there was a very interesting and argumentative topic.

Why is it OK/more accepted for a male to divorce/leave relationship move away/new family but it's a different standard when a female does it?

Same with awful comments like 'other woman' why is there not one similar for men (maybe there is and I apologise I'm unaware of it.)

Aibu- just the way it is

Nbu - it should change.

Looking for any thoughts.

Sorry, I'm not a native English speaker, so there may be phrases I am unaware of.

Patriarchy

The numbers show that more women initiate divorce than men do

As for moving on. What are they supposed to do once they have left the marital home?
Sit in their new one bed flat in isolation except for work and when their children see them?

If it was going to change it would require more women not being the primary carer and working full time to support their children that they only see EoW.

I know this goes against the grain of mumsnet but IRL I know more women who leave relationships and do so by cheating ie line up the next one before you leave the current one. And in a couplr of those cases they then go on to have more kids to "cement" their new family.

I actually think there is more of a stigma in the new man's family, stepmums are portrayed as evil and mean while stepdads are viewed as stepping up where in reality a stepfather is the most dangerous figure to a child.

It's not ok and I don't think it's seen as acceptable for a man to move miles away from his children. Yes, some do but most people would think he's a crap father for doing it.

Got it in one

It's not seen as acceptable in any of my social circles for a father to abandon his kids. Any man doing that would definitely be shunned afterwards.

Obviously if it's just divorce or separation and he still takes responsibility for his kids, that depends on the actual reasons.

Women tend to stay in the marital home after divorce rather than move away.

And it is perfectly acceptable in British culture.

I'd say it's one of the few things women aren't judged differently for.