To still be in grief for end of marriage

[Stillinpieces]

It’s three years since my ex left. He started a new relationship soon after leaving and now lives with her in a new house they’ve bought together. All I ever wanted was a family and now I don’t have my children half the time and they go on holiday with her instead. I’ve tried using the time when they’re away to do things for me, I’ve tried OLD but it feels like as a woman in your late 40s you’re basically dealing with the dregs. I would love to meet someone but it seems impossible.

I desperately wish I could go back in time, I wish I knew then what I know now. I wish I could have it all back.

Did anyone else feel like this, for as long, and still find happiness on the other side? How long does it take? I don’t know how to keep bearing this sadness and sense of loss…

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He left because he was unhappy.

Are you looking at it with rose tinted glasses? It does take time, regardless of how your marriage ended. Get angry, get busy - I found that helped.

Thanks @Summerhillsquare . I probably am. I just can’t believe I’m still feeling this overwhelming pain about the loss of my family, three years on. I thought I’d be in a happy new phase by now. It doesn’t help that it feels impossible to meet anyone new for a relationship. I have great friends but I also feel very lonely. And I miss my children so much when they’re away. I’d love to hear from anyone who can tell me that things get better. It all feels impossible right now.