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Neighbours parking on access land

91 replies

Debs14 · 06/04/2025 16:05

We live in a semidetached converted barn, and the layout of our neighbour’s house and our house is a bit unusual. There is a pub garden behind our houses, so we only have doors, windows, gardens and driveways on one side.
We are down the end of a narrow private road and there isn’t any space to park on the road. We have a driveway that can fit 3 cars, and we have to allow access across our drive for our neighbours to get to their drive, see diagram. We own the land directly in front of our house, including the access area. Our neighbour has room for at least two cars on their drive, but it is a bit tricky to get onto and reverse out of.
Because it’s a bit awkward getting onto their drive, their son, and all other visitors, park on the access area, which is right in front of our garden. Now this is the part where I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable or not, but it really annoys me when people park there because I feel that my personal space is being invaded. Particularly on nice sunny days when I want to relax in our garden, however it feels exactly the same way as when someone else is standing too close to you.
We often ask our neighbour’s son to move his car onto his mum’s drive, which he does without complaining, but our neighbour always makes a big deal of it, like we are being unreasonable not wanting them to park on our drive. And he still always parks there unless we ask him to move.
So, AIBU for not being neighbourly, or is it reasonable to not want other people parking on your land? Also, if we own the land, but have to allow access, are they perfectly in their rights to park there and I should just put up with it?

Neighbours parking on access land
OP posts:
Sourgherkin · 06/04/2025 16:28

GreenCandleWax · 06/04/2025 16:27

I don't think you do see. OP's post makes clear otherwise.

We shall see

IdLikeThingToSpiralIntoControl · 06/04/2025 16:30

Debs14 · 06/04/2025 16:22

It’s on our deeds that the land belongs to us.

@Sourgherkin are you extra bored today or something?

Debs14 · 06/04/2025 16:31

@Sourgherkin on my diagram where I’ve labelled “private road”, I drew an arrow next to it to try and show that the road leading to our drive is a private road, but our actual driveway belongs to us according to the land registry.

OP posts:
Trumptonagain · 06/04/2025 16:32

Sourgherkin · 06/04/2025 16:28

We shall see

The OP isn't saying they own the private road as a whole.

What they own is the land directly outside their garden, as shown, including where the neighbours son has parked his car.

Sourgherkin · 06/04/2025 16:35

OP?

Sourgherkin · 06/04/2025 16:35

Ah so you do not own the private road
so the ds is not parking on your property
but rather outside it

Sourgherkin · 06/04/2025 16:36

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Sourgherkin · 06/04/2025 16:37

Trumptonagain · 06/04/2025 16:32

The OP isn't saying they own the private road as a whole.

What they own is the land directly outside their garden, as shown, including where the neighbours son has parked his car.

The land directly in front of their garden is according to the diagram the private road

AllTheAll · 06/04/2025 16:37

Trumptonagain · 06/04/2025 16:28

And that you have to give your neighbours rights of way across your land to access theirs....or just be pleasant and allow them.to use it.

Either way.....

Access in the meaning of an area left clear for them/anyone who has the rights to pass through...
NOT
Use as their private parking space.
Maybe they don't understand the term access.

Trumptonagain has it.

OP needs to provide clear access to neighbors. So she cannot park on that spot on HER drive as it blocks their access.

However it defies logic that the neighbors think they can park there.

LauraNorda · 06/04/2025 16:37

Sourgherkin · 06/04/2025 16:35

Ah so you do not own the private road
so the ds is not parking on your property
but rather outside it

Some people just won't be told, will they?

Sourgherkin · 06/04/2025 16:39

The op has confirmed she does NOT own the private road

therefore the neighbour, who is parking on the private road, is not parking on her property

and if I’m wrong…. Where is the boundary that you own if not the end of your garden?

Neighbours parking on access land
Thirteenblackcat · 06/04/2025 16:40

Sourgherkin · 06/04/2025 16:37

The land directly in front of their garden is according to the diagram the private road

Read the OPs words, not just the diagram 🙄

harriethoyle · 06/04/2025 16:40

I am still a bit confused (sorry 🤣) but if you own the land where he is parking, tell him to stop. If you don’t all you can do is ask nicely.

Delphigirl · 06/04/2025 16:41

@Sourgherkin why don’t you just bow out. You clearly are not very bright or not very good at reading. Either way it is tiresome.

PoundlandColumbo · 06/04/2025 16:42

We own the land directly in front of our house, including the access area

From the OP @Sourgherkin . Now pipe down will you?

LauraNorda · 06/04/2025 16:42

I wonder if that gherkin character is the arsewipe that is parking on the OPs land?

OchonAgusOchonOh · 06/04/2025 16:42

Sourgherkin · 06/04/2025 16:39

The op has confirmed she does NOT own the private road

therefore the neighbour, who is parking on the private road, is not parking on her property

and if I’m wrong…. Where is the boundary that you own if not the end of your garden?

There is an arrow pointing from the words "private road" to the private road. I think that makes it quite clear that the private road is in the direction of the arrow rather than continuing on through the op's garden.

Sourgherkin · 06/04/2025 16:43

PoundlandColumbo · 06/04/2025 16:42

We own the land directly in front of our house, including the access area

From the OP @Sourgherkin . Now pipe down will you?

so on the diagram, the op would surely have marked the boundary of the land she owns

as it stands, she confirms she doesn’t own the private road but does own the “bit” in front of her garden. So the diagram should have the boundary line in then!

Sourgherkin · 06/04/2025 16:44

LauraNorda · 06/04/2025 16:42

I wonder if that gherkin character is the arsewipe that is parking on the OPs land?

What a novel response….

Sourgherkin · 06/04/2025 16:44

Ok I’ll leave you to it

PoundlandColumbo · 06/04/2025 16:44

Sourgherkin · 06/04/2025 16:43

so on the diagram, the op would surely have marked the boundary of the land she owns

as it stands, she confirms she doesn’t own the private road but does own the “bit” in front of her garden. So the diagram should have the boundary line in then!

You're making an arse of yourself now, just stop.

EsmeSusanOgg · 06/04/2025 16:46

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I think you are having trouble with reading comprehension.

OP's neighbour is parking on OP's drive. OP has to leave part of her drive clear to allow access to the neighbour. The private road is not shown on the diagram - there is an arrow indicating the private road is to the side of the properties.

OP and others have explained this.

itsgettingweird · 06/04/2025 16:47

Ooohh we now have diagram police as well as thread police.

OP as someone that can read both the words and the picture yanbu.

They gates are the edge of their house and should park the other side of them where they live.

Pug a sign on the gate saying access road - do not park.

TheNightingalesStarling · 06/04/2025 16:48

Can you park in a row parallel to you garage, at an angle if necessary, instead of perpendicular

getsomehelp · 06/04/2025 16:57

swap the word "access", for "through way",
They can drive through, not park on it.
Tell the lad he needs to park on their side of the gate.