I’ve recently had my 4th miscarriage and I reached out to my closest group of friends separately just to let them know as they had noticed I was very quiet and commented on it, so updated them on what had happened and that I was booked for surgery to have baby removed on xx day.
2 of them have been amazing, checking in every other day, not expecting a reply just a text see how I am doing and have sent a little something in the post.
2 of them have been non contact and I am so hurt by it, I had one reply on the day that I txt about what had happened (from one friend) nothing on day of surgery, and nothing at all from the other one (my partner txt her about it as it’s his sister) and she hasn’t even messaged me at all.
I know everyone is different but surely the silence is worse than anything? I know if it was the other way around I would have just sent some sort of message along the lines of … thinking of you today or sending a hug not even expecting a response but just to know I haven’t forgotten about them or I that I am pretending it didn’t happen.
I don’t want this to ruin my friendships but I think of them differently now and feel as time keeps going on it will just be so much time has passed they will pretend it’s never happened so it’s easier for them?
FYI it’s been nearly 2 weeks now.
Am I being unreasonable? Has anyone else been through this and how did you navigate it? Xx