To think she should have come round?

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My mum lives a two minute drive away.

I'm poorly (chronic condition) and asked if she'd come for a coffee today. I just wanted someone around for half an hour. She refused, even though she had nothing else on. AIBU to feel like she doesn't really care and is a bit selfish?

I've also been really struggling with poor mental health and thinking about suicide quite a bit, and thinking my mum couldn't be bothered to come over and see me for half an hour today has really made me feel even worse.

YANBU but remember that’s a reflection on her and not you! Sending you love OP. I hope you have support in place - it’s a tough time

Thank you @PleaseAndThankYou12 . I don't have any support but I'm thinking of taking some sick leave from work. My manager is aware of my poor mental health. I'm scared I might get sacked though.

AIBU to feel like she doesn't really care and is a bit selfish?

This is so difficult to answer.

My sister had mental health issues and as unsympathetic as this is going to sound, it was absolutely draining at times for the whole family.

We did our best, but in the end she pushed us away (as she did her friends) because she never considered that when she wanted us to come round, maybe just maybe we had issues of our own going on at the time.

Perhaps your mum feels the same?

It's shit for you having a mental illness but sometimes you have to remember it can be shit for others too.

I hope life improves for you soon

I'm really sorry that you are feeling down, and if you are feeling suicidal then please phone the Samaritans and talk to somebody. But you need to understand that just because your mum has (as far as you know) nothing else to do, that doesn't mean that she can simply droip everything and come and have a coffee. She may have things she is doing, or she may not feel up to it. You have posted a number of other threads about this as well, and it may be that she is feeling the resentment towards her / her husband and doesn't feel comfortable either. Do you have a friend that you could call, or if possible go out for a walk with - it's a lovely day and even a short walk might help you clear the co=bwebs and feel a bit better?