Certainly not the way I behave but no doubt this will split the masses. AIBU?
I can’t be 100% sure but the way a nursery mum acted towards me at a party this weekend, I can only imagine something has gone on between our two year olds.
Don’t recognise the mum but sparked up a convo via the mutual mum we know.
To summarise I asked 4 questions and made one statement, I received one word answers, with no questions back. I had asked if they were attending x Nursey, who their child was, their age, which room they were in. Not firing questions, there were natural pauses in between until I said ‘I’ve not heard of [insert their child name] to which the mum replied ‘I’m pretty sure [insert my child name] has met [insert her child name], and then she side stepped around the mutual mum to stand on the other side to get away from me. I now realise these were not natural pauses in conversation but someone who was not willing to speak to me. The mutual parent sparked a convo with me, obviously feeling as awkward as I did.
I’ve not heard of this child but given there has been a few recent incidents with my child, I assume one must be with theirs.
For the record, my child has been there almost two years, and in that time has been bitten maybe a dozen times if not more. And the same 3 names have come up. DC old enough to tell me in the past year or so and prior to that in baby room, one staff member was discreet as you would expect but one didn’t get the memo and told me twice who it was.
DC has come home sometimes with two bites in one go, and up until 2 weeks ago had never bitten anyone. We know this is the one time DC has bitten anyone as the nursery tell you, and we also know it was not this child because DC and DC friend told us the same name.
There has also been one historic scratching incident (someone scratched DC and another time DC scratched someone) both a long time ago now and then two very recent scratching incidents, both by my DC. I can only imagine this child was one of the people my DC scratched.
Given this behaviour is what babies/toddlers do, it’s developmental and not something to react against, I’ve never reacted to the mum whose child scratched mine a long time ago, I actually walked into the tail end of it happening so knew who it was and still meet her socially. Of course never mentioned it.
The second DC who had been biting my DC did so time and time again to the point I asked nursery if they should be kept apart. I’ve never come face to face with that mum but if I did? I wouldn’t be anything but kind. After all, 2 year olds will be 2 year olds.
The 3rd DC who used to bite my DC almost weekly in the baby room, I walked to the party with them today. That’s how much I am affected by it.
AIBU to think this mother is incredibly immature. I was shortly leaving but made my excuses and left on the spot as in all honesty, it was embarrassing in front of the mutual mum we know who looked incredibly awkward. Unless my DC scratched the other DC eyes out and nursery failed to tell me, is there any reason to behave like this.