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AIBU?

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Was I being a complete misery?

6 replies

Toots22 · 06/04/2025 12:33

15yo DD asked if she could have her friend stay last night - her friend fancies a boy that lives nearby and the boy was having a sleepover with friends for his birthday.

The girls went out multiple times to see if they could find the boy that the friend fancies. They asked at 00.50 if they could go out as the boy was walking his dog. I reluctantly said yes, for 10 mins. They came back after 30 mins. (It’s a safe area, they didn’t go far and I was texting her to make sure they were ok).

The girls kept me awake all night with their talking and laughing. At 5am I text her and said to be quiet and get to sleep. At 6am DD woke me up and asked if they could go out to meet the boy and ‘watch the sunrise’ - I said a firm ‘no’, had to say it again a couple of times and told DD to get to sleep. Was I complete misery?

AIBU - yes you were a misery
AINBU - you did the sensible thing

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Jammiesdodger · 06/04/2025 12:36

They were taking the piss! I wouldn't have let them.go out at nearly 1am in the morning either!

autisticbookworm · 06/04/2025 12:37

No! I’d have been pretty pissed off if I’d been disturbed at all between 11-8. I wouldn’t have let them go ot at midnight either. It would be a while before I let my dd have anyone stop again!

SunsetCocktails · 06/04/2025 12:46

Nope they’re taking the piss. One of DDs friends stayed here once then disappeared off out for hours on a ‘date’! DD stuck on her own at home, we were out so didn’t discover this until we returned home. Needless to say they both got a talking to and said friend hasn’t stayed here since. (Both girls 17 so not super young, I was more angry that A, girls mum assumed she was at ours, and B, she basically abandoned DD who she was supposed to be hanging out with!)

SunsetCocktails · 06/04/2025 12:47

Also rules here are quiet after 12.30/1, otherwise no more sleepovers for a while. To be fair we always seem to have some random sleeping over and they’re usually quiet and considerate.

Alllll · 06/04/2025 12:48

YABU to let two 15 year olds wander about at 1am. Not unreasonable to say no at 6am.

Toots22 · 06/04/2025 13:00

I was still awake, up and dressed at 00.50 as I’d been out, otherwise I’d have said no then also!

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