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Neighbour complaining about my trellis

20 replies

catalinamiami · 05/04/2025 23:54

My neighbour planted some shrubs on the boundary line which is practically next to our front door.
The branches are now on our side and soon the shrub will be practically outside out front door.

DH made a trellis and put it in a way (on our boundary) so that the neighbours shrub wont grow across our property.

The neighbour is now demanding that we remove the trellis even though its on our property.

She has been funny with us since we stopped taking parcels for her as it was becoming a daily thing and she apparently had heard on her Ringdoor bell me declining her delivery.

She has slagged us of to our neighbours as well, we have tried to get on with her but I work from home and havent got the time to keep opening the door multiple times a day.

DH is very annoyed with neighbour and her partner as we have tried to get on with them and DH now wants to erect a fence which would directly block her window as he is fed up of her CCTV pointing on our property and wants privacy.

I think its a bit extreme but I do think she is being awkward herself as she planted a hawthorn knowing how prickly they get and large they grow directly by our door rather than the other side where she has no neighbours.

AIBU with the trellis?

OP posts:
CoastalCalm · 05/04/2025 23:56

No you’re not at all and it will save you the hassle of having to cut back as it inevitably encroaches.

JustJoinedRightNow · 05/04/2025 23:56

Go for it OP. It's on your property. What exactly is her objection to the trellis?

Saphire123 · 05/04/2025 23:58

You can build a trellis on your own property if you wish.
If her bushes are growing into your property, you can cut off offending branches and return them to her.
She sounds unreasonable.

saraclara · 06/04/2025 00:01

There's a simple answer:
'You put up with my trellis or I exercise my legal right to prune your shrub back to your boundary line. Which do you prefer?'

Elboob · 06/04/2025 00:07

Sod the trellis get the fence!
Why wait? She's already not speaking to you. The fence will stop her cameras recording you and will stop the shrub. Happier life.

farmlife2 · 06/04/2025 00:07

The trellis sounds like a reasonable solution. I'd ignore objections or tell her it can come down when the plant goes. Might be easier just to get the fence though.

Letmecallyouback · 06/04/2025 00:10

Just make sure you paint the side facing her a dreadful colour before you fix it in place.

Brinny · 06/04/2025 00:23

On your land I put up a six foot fence, do what you please on you side of the boundary, we did as we had the same hassle , they never pruned or cared for their shrubs , so we basically had enough .

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 06/04/2025 00:42

Saphire123 · 05/04/2025 23:58

You can build a trellis on your own property if you wish.
If her bushes are growing into your property, you can cut off offending branches and return them to her.
She sounds unreasonable.

You can cut the offending branches and you have to offer them back but the NDN is within their rights to say "no you're alright keep them"

I have to pay for my garden refuse to be collected so didn't want to pay ££ for the overgrown branches of NDN excessive tree to be collected. Luckily if I pulled it while I cut the branches they sprung back over the fence.

Original poster
catalinamiami · 06/04/2025 01:10

The NDN objects to the trellis as she says it will stop the shrub growing but she has no consideration that it ultimately it will obstruct our front door and pathway.

A friend is coming down in the week who does landscaping and we will see how a fence would work.

OP posts:
Vaxtable · 06/04/2025 01:33

YANBU the trellis sounds a good idea. In fact I would be cutting back the bush as soon as it starts growing over your boundary.

and yes I would put up a fence

HelplessSoul · 06/04/2025 09:38

Poison her shitty shrub with bleach or something then build a brick wall to gain privacy.

Lets face it OP, we all know and you agree that your neighbour is a cunt.

AmandaHoldensLips · 06/04/2025 09:45

Remember the old adage: “Strong fences make good neighbours.”

jeaux90 · 06/04/2025 09:46

Cut any of the shrubs off that infringe on your side. And yes fence or trellis

noctilucentcloud · 06/04/2025 09:50

I think the trellis is fine. Re the fence, be aware that there's usually rules re fencing at the front - you may not be allowed them at all but if you are you're not usually allowed to put up 6 foot fences for example, you probably wouldn't be allowed to block her window and you have to make sure it doesn't block any visibility related to the road and leaving and exiting drives (if you have them).

Choughinthemist · 06/04/2025 09:58

HelplessSoul · 06/04/2025 09:38

Poison her shitty shrub with bleach or something then build a brick wall to gain privacy.

Lets face it OP, we all know and you agree that your neighbour is a cunt.

Don’t do this. Bloody ridiculous

HopingForTheBest25 · 06/04/2025 09:59

I don't think people are allowed to have ring cameras which show their neighbours properties - you could contact the council and they can tell her to have it pointed at her own door only iirc

Aparecium · 06/04/2025 11:03

catalinamiami · 06/04/2025 01:10

The NDN objects to the trellis as she says it will stop the shrub growing but she has no consideration that it ultimately it will obstruct our front door and pathway.

A friend is coming down in the week who does landscaping and we will see how a fence would work.

She has no sway over whether it grows on your side.

Team Fence.

AlanShore · 06/04/2025 11:05

Fuck off love. Is a full sentance

GabriellaMontez · 06/04/2025 11:06

Yanbu.

And ask her to remove the surveillance from your private property. Twat.

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