AIBU to be insulted by DH?

[justkeepswimingswiming]

My husband never suggests anything to do. He’s a home body and would happily sit all day at home every day he’s not at work.
the other day I said to him I’d like to do x, y and z this weekend and he’s forgotten.
we had to go food shopping and I was annoyed that he’s forgotten the plans, and he actually suggested we go to Aldi if I want to do something else while already paying in tescos! Like wtf.

It was the anniversary of our stillborn child the other day, and he said nothing to me all day. actually asked why I was upset.

AIBU to want to bury him under the patio? I feel so insulted.

Some people are not good with dates. I doubt it is a reflection of his feelings. Did you talk to him about it? I think it is unfair to expect him to be a mind reader.

Re: weekends. Try to find things you’d both enjoy doing together.

I think his forgetting the anniversary of your still born child is on a different level from forgetting about the food shopping OP. I would find that truly horrible- I endured a neonatal death myself so I can understand how upset you must have felt on the anniversary. Him not remembering must have been a very lonely experience for you.

He knew the date, I told him the day before… and he still forgot.
have tried on the weekends, but it’s always down to me to suggest something and I’ve just got fed up of being the one who has to plan everything. He doesn’t plan anything just says he doesn’t know and it’s down to me.
Its Really making me go off him as a person as it feels like I don’t matter to him.

It was terrible. I ended up crying myself to sleep. Been seven years, and he promised me every year we’d do something to remember them by… and of course he can’t even comfort me let alone stick to a promise. It’s not something you just forget. Feel like he’s shown me that he doesn’t care about me.
sending you big hugs too.

I’m so sorry about your stillbirth, but I think it’s important that you don’t try and mix two different issues here.

Lots of people forget plans - especially if they’re just along the lines of “do you fancy doing X on Saturday”. I think it’s also easy to forget things that don’t really interest you - I know I’m guilty of forgetting that DH has plans to do his hobby sometimes, for example.

But forgetting the anniversary of a still birth is a whole different board game. I’m sorry he did that.

He sounds emotionally lazy and self absorbed. You actually reminded him of the anniversary of your still born child (as if you'd need to!) and he still did nothing. Not even a hug. Nah, I'm not buying it and neither should you. On the rather different subject of him wanting to stay home all the time - you're clearly incompatible. Do you really want to stay in this marriage?