Help me settle this

[blackbirdbluebird]

DH and I split the school run.

I do Monday/ Tuesday/Wednesday and he does Thursday/Friday

I’ve had to book a Thursday off work in a few week’s time because I couldn’t get a weekend dental appointment for months.

DH said in passing yesterday that I should do the school run on that day as I’m off and he’s working.

My appointment is at 10:00 and it’s a 30 minute drive away and I’ll need to get myself ready beforehand and find parking etc. when I get there.

my view is he usually does a Thursday, while working, so why change. I also work and manage to three out of the five days.

Aibu?

This isn’t any type row or anything but it got me thinking

I think you're both pretty petty 😂

Unless I was having a lie in, I'd do the Thurs in the circumstance to make their working days easier.

I would have said ‘can we just stick to the usual routine if possible, means I’m not rushing for once.’

Toss a coin!

I would just do it. But I like my DH and if I could do it and it makes his life easier I would. Because I know if roles were reversed he would do it for me.

I don't get it. What's to settle? I can see why he suggested you do the school run. You have effectively said it would be too tight timing wise. End of discussion surely?!

"I won't have time to take them before my appointment but I can pick them up after school if you like."

You should do it.

You need to leave at the latest 9:30, so it leaves you plenty of time to leisurely get ready and drop your DC for 9am and then go to the appointment.

I don’t know why you’d even question this.

Why would the person rushing around getting ready and have to get to work on time drop the DC off, when the other parent has plenty of time in the morning to do it.
It doesn’t make sense.

This

Sounds like there's no actual reason why you shouldn't do it. The timings sound perfectly doable tbh.

If you do the school run will you need to get ready and leave for the dentist before your DH would need to leave for work if he does it? If so then he should stick to doing it. If you can do the school run whilst leaving later than he’d need to then you should do it, needing to ‘get ready’ beforehand seems a bit of a lame excuse as presumably your DH will need to get ready for work too, it’s not like a dentist appointment involves a huge amount of prep beforehand! I’d argue getting ready to go to the dentist is quicker than getting ready to go to work!

If you really want to be petty though why don’t you do the Thursday but only if he swaps for one of your days earlier in the week.

Not quite the same, but DH and I have a morning routine in which we vary who's walking our dog first thing. When one of us has a day off, we change the routine so that the person still in work can have a more relaxed start to the working day for a change. Sorry OP but I think I'm with your DH on this one!

We tend to stick to our usual school runs to allow the parent who is on holiday to get a break (our kids don’t have the same holidays so we can have situations of a parent being off with one kid, but the other kid still needing to get to school). DH would let me have the ‘free’ lie in.

Offer to do after school but say you need to get ready for your appointment. Ask if that means if has a day off he would be happy to do your school runs or would he prefer an easier day.

Wow. Wouldn’t give this a second thought.

If school starts at 9am then she has plenty of time to do the school run before the dentist.

If you can’t do the school run because of timings I’d just tell him you can’t x

This!

Also confused why you need a whole day off for a dentist appointment 😆 hope you’re planning to do something nice in the afternoon!