To think DP to book an overnight nanny and charge it to DP's credit card?

[sillybut]

I have to go away for a night at the end of June for work reasons. As DP works a number of nights a week this causes childcare problems. So as soon as i knew it was going to happen which was in late February I asked him to arrange to be at home that night to look after DD. He said it was too early to organise and to ask him nearer the time. So I reminded him in mid April and again he said to ask him nearer the time. So I asked him this morning and he now says I've left it too late and he can't do it that night.

I'm fuming. I've had one night away from DD since she was born and she's now 2years 7n months

AIBU

nope, YANBU, he is.

tell him youre going and thats that.

Well on that basis it is his responsibility to sort out. Ask him what he intends to do to find cover, making it quite clear that it is his responsibility to do so.

absolutely.
you stated you needed that night covered WAY before he did.
you got there first.
it is his child too.
tell him he has to sort it out, not you.
tell him he can either sort it himself or you can email him the details to book night nanny.

HIS responsibilty.

No, you're not in the slightest. You gave him plenty of time and plenty of reminders. He was clearly just ignoring it and hoping that it would go away.

If I did this to DW she would simply say something along the lines of "sort it out sunshine, cos I'm not going to be there". You should say the same to him.

And by the way, it's hardly like you're off for a night on the lash; it's work related for ffs.

YANBU.

He is shirking responsibility. I can't believe he even made it your responsibility to tell him at the "right" time. What a twunt.