Dp raising his voice at me

[Nizagirl]

My husband and I have been together for 8 years now, and we got married 3 years ago. One thing that has always bothered me about him is that he loses his temper easily, his tone and body language gets aggresive and sometimes raises his voice even in public. This happens over little or big things, from making a mistake when cooking or when I forget to pack something when we travel. To be fair sometimes he apologizes afterwards, but he doesn't when he believes I really did something wrong. I have many reasons to love him dearly but I just can't deal with him yelling at me even if I've made a mistake. I believe if I have apologized then I know I did something wrong and he doesn't need to yell at me to express his anger (don't mind hearing a lecture but when I'm being yelled at I just feel so pathetic). Am I being unreasonable?

No you are not. He is a bully.

Nope. Wouldn’t put up with that.

You're not being unreasonable to hate being treated like that.

You were being unreasonable to marry him after 5 years of knowing what a horrible temper he has.

Did you think a wedding ring was going to change him from dick to decent bloke?

You are not being pathetic.
However, you are not a child, he is not your superior, he has no right to shout at you, he has the problem, not you.

You don't have to accept it... walk away. I doubt he will continue to shout at thin air.

My DH and I don't allow raised voices in our home. If the other person can't control themselves and speak respectfully then we walk away until they can.

Shouting achieves nothing and makes the other person withdraw and shut down. You can feel angry and upset and convey that without raising your voice.

He doesn't sound like a kind person at all!

No YANBU reminds me of my exDH and that’s why he’s ex

What do you mean if you make a mistake ?
Does he think he’s your boss ?
Agree with PP why did you marry him ?
I’d tell him not to speak to me like that.

My husband has never raised his voice in 30years ,I regularly mess up over things as he does as well..never shouted at each other..just deep breaths and moan to a friend!!

It is not okay to ever shout at anyone for making a MISTAKE! If you had chosen to do something wrong a lecture is understandable, but lecturing someone over a mistake isn't really okay either. If it's a mistake, as soon as it's pointed out you know you've made a mistake and what the consequences of it are so what does lecturing someone even achieve other than belittling them.
That's what he's really trying to achieve, your belittlement. He sees himself as superior to you and he wants you to feel that way too. Get out!!

To be fair sometimes he apologizes afterwards, but he doesn't when he believes I really did something wrong.

So, it sounds like the two of you have different ideas about what is right and what is wrong. Is he completely comfortable and forgiving if you yell at him because he has said or done something that seems wrong to you, and don't apologize even after he explains why he said what he said? does he feel as bad as you do when YOU tell HIM why you disagree with his logic and consider his opinion wrong?

If not, why do you think what he needs/wants is more important than what you need/want?