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AIBU to find this rude?

36 replies

booksandbakinglover · 04/04/2025 16:46

Picture this: you have a professional round doing electrical work on your house. They are on a personal phonecall the entire time (in a different room to you, but it’s on loud speaker and you can hear the entire conversation… however it’s in a different language so you can’t understand it).
Are you finding this rude?

(To add: you can’t get up to close a door because your baby has fallen asleep on your lap😅)

edit: it’s not the fact I can’t understand it that I find rude, but the fact he’s on a personal call on loudspeaker

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OldCottageGreenhouse · 04/04/2025 17:44

Very rude! I’m with you, OP

Crunchymum · 04/04/2025 17:46

My DP is a tradesman and would only take a personal call at work if urgent (I've had to call him before and tell him my mum died - that call was more important than any job).

He would never take or make an unnecessary personal call / call of any length whilst with a customer.

Rude, unprofessional and ignorant.

SantasLargerHelper · 04/04/2025 18:21

booksandbakinglover · 04/04/2025 17:43

I think it’s because if I were working in someone else’s house I’d be as quiet as possible and just get on with my work so I wouldn’t disrupt them too much. But my partner is always telling me that not everyone thinks or behaves the same way I do so I have to stop being shocked when they don’t 😂

I'm the same. And I'm in agreement with you that it's rude and unprofessional.

YerArseInParsley · 04/04/2025 18:23

booksandbakinglover · 04/04/2025 16:46

Picture this: you have a professional round doing electrical work on your house. They are on a personal phonecall the entire time (in a different room to you, but it’s on loud speaker and you can hear the entire conversation… however it’s in a different language so you can’t understand it).
Are you finding this rude?

(To add: you can’t get up to close a door because your baby has fallen asleep on your lap😅)

edit: it’s not the fact I can’t understand it that I find rude, but the fact he’s on a personal call on loudspeaker

He's definitely qualified for the job and not calling his nephew in Poland and askjng how to rewire a house? 😬

BeaAndBen · 04/04/2025 18:23

It doesn’t bother me anymore than the radio does.

booksandbakinglover · 04/04/2025 18:24

YerArseInParsley · 04/04/2025 18:23

He's definitely qualified for the job and not calling his nephew in Poland and askjng how to rewire a house? 😬

Let’s hope he wasn’t anyway!😂

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FatherDickByrne · 04/04/2025 18:36

It’s bloody rude! He’s working in your home so at the very least he should check if you mind. I can see that the vote is divided so there are clearly some people who wouldn’t be bothered by this. That’s fine, of course, but spare a thought for the people who are stressed or upset by noise. Why should they have their needs ignored? I’m not on board with people having conversations on speakerphone ant the best of times and I would HATE it in my home!

Gwenhwyfar · 04/04/2025 18:50

" spare a thought for the people who are stressed or upset by noise. Why should they have their needs ignored?"

Because we make compromises when we have to share our space with others. You may be at work in an office, but colleagues are chatting. It's part of life.

DilemmaDelilah · 04/04/2025 19:48

My cleaner frequently has loud phone calls while she's here. Fair enough, she doesn't stop working, but it also means that she isn't exactly concentrating on what she's doing. It annoys me a lot.

A few years ago I had a carpenter making some built in wardrobes. He had the radio on really loud and was singing along. He didn't ask if I minded or anything. I found that really rude. He did a good enough job but there is no way I would have him back. He also asked me for cups of tea roughly hourly, and wouldn't talk to me about the work, only my husband. Misogynistic git.

WiddlinDiddlin · 04/04/2025 19:51

CurlewKate · 04/04/2025 17:26

Why does it matter that it was in another language?

Because the OP can't tell if it's an important/urgent call, if its him asking another electrician how to fix this mess or if its a frivolous chat.

This isn't normally relevant, but if you're going to post it on MN then one of the first questions will be 'oh is it an important conversation or a personal chat'.

And listening to a conversation in another language is often harder to tune out because its an unfamiliar sound (at least I find that I can tune out one of my neighbours far more easily than the other, when their outdoor conversatiosn are of an equal volume!).

TwistedWonder · 04/04/2025 19:55

It’s rude as fuck to have a conversation on loud speaker when someone else in your own house let alone to do it in someone’s house where you’re working. Appalling unprofessional behaviour. I would have to had said something

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