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Critical of new role - AIBU?

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Cheesehound · 04/04/2025 09:35

I’m leaving my current job for a former role that is better paid but more hours and is stressful but (to my mind) well worth doing and will lead to pay rises, promotions and a better sense of satisfaction for me. I’ve enjoyed my part-time job but I’ve run out of road with it - I tried three times for promotion into other teams without my current organisation and was unsuccessful, so felt I might be better placed elsewhere.

A few of my (very lovely and well-meaning) colleagues at my current work have expressed surprise at my decision and some have outright said they think I’m mad for wanting to head back into the stress of my former role (for reference it’s a job we have all done previously and ‘escaped’ by moving into the voluntary sector).

I am looking forward to having more money, making more of my skills and looking
to move into a management position in time. That would not have been possible in my current role, as there is a very flat structure.

I just felt a bit flat yesterday and like I have made a terrible decision. Being regaled with horror stories about the role hasn’t helped. It is a risky, stressful job, but it’s not without reward and one of those things will be able to take my DC on holiday and shorter breaks in the UK, which we will all enjoy.

AIBU to ask for people just to be happy for me and not to focus on the negatives?

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StartAnew · 04/04/2025 09:38

Doesn’t matter what they think OP so long as you are happy with your decision. Are you?

ScaryM0nster · 04/04/2025 09:40

It’s a difficult one, because your move and motives is in sone way a judgement on them and the choices they made.

You're moving because it feels dead end to you. They’re choosing to stay in what you’re indicating is deadend. So it’ll bring out the slightly defensive comments. What’s right for you may well be different to what’s right for them, but your move will be hitting a nerve. It may help to see it like that rather than aimed at you individually.

Cheesehound · 04/04/2025 09:55

StartAnew · 04/04/2025 09:38

Doesn’t matter what they think OP so long as you are happy with your decision. Are you?

Yes @StartAnew - I’m feeling excited and energised by it.

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Cheesehound · 04/04/2025 09:59

ScaryM0nster · 04/04/2025 09:40

It’s a difficult one, because your move and motives is in sone way a judgement on them and the choices they made.

You're moving because it feels dead end to you. They’re choosing to stay in what you’re indicating is deadend. So it’ll bring out the slightly defensive comments. What’s right for you may well be different to what’s right for them, but your move will be hitting a nerve. It may help to see it like that rather than aimed at you individually.

Thanks @ScaryM0nster - I hadn’t looked at it that way.

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