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What do you say when people ask you to move so they can take a photo? Not because you're standing between them and the camera but because you're standing in a place they want to take a perfect shot for their socials?

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Wreckshaw · 03/04/2025 23:23

I have never encountered this before but I had it several times today. I am on holiday and went to a very nice place for a day trip. I've been there before a few years ago and people didn't act like this then. Obviously people took photos - I take photos too. But this was different. There were small groups of two or three people in various places who were repeatedly posing, over a prolonged period, and repeatedly taking pictures - I assume for socials. When I was in the areas, they asked me to move "because it's a photo taking spot". One guy said I was "in the way" and I pointed out that I wasn't and he was perfectly free to take whatever photos he wanted just as I was free to go about my business. I was pretty taken aback to be honest and couldn't think of a better response. I'll probably just go for "fuck off, you're chatting shit" next time, but what do other people say when they encounter this vapid bullcrap?

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tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 04/04/2025 13:03

Doseofreality · 04/04/2025 12:58

Get my phone, point it at them and loudly say “And here we have a influencer in the wild, watch as these parasites majestically stomp around like they own the place, whilst onlookers think what a fucking knob”.

Edited

Is it just me hearing this said by David Attenborough? 😁

SwanOfThoseThings · 04/04/2025 13:15

CaptainMyCaptain · 04/04/2025 12:09

I think I would class that as assault.

Just what I was thinking - if someone not in a wheelchair was physically moved out of the way like that, it would be assault (unless they were being moved out of danger in an emergency) - why should the wheelchair make that any less?

Pinkhat123 · 04/04/2025 13:19

Joolsin · 03/04/2025 23:27

I wouldn't move until I was good and ready.

I’d even make more of a point to not move in any rush! 😎

SwanOfThoseThings · 04/04/2025 13:22

It isn't hard to find software that will erase unwanted people from your photos, it comes as standard on some phones.

OddSockHouse · 04/04/2025 13:29

I’ve never been asked to move for someone’s else’s photo op, thankfully!
I think I’d just smile and say “yes - when I’ve finished. This a nice spot, I want to stay here a little longer, thanks” then I’d turn my back to them and ignore the stares.

Alconleigh · 04/04/2025 13:29

It’s just fascinating to me how none of these people are remotely interested in the place they are in. People used to take photos of the amazing scenery. Now they want a picture of themselves in front of the scenery. While barely glancing at it with their, you know, eyes………The vapidity of the elevation of self above all else is both boggling and depressing.

Sunnyplain · 04/04/2025 13:34

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burningmountain · 04/04/2025 13:36

Wreckshaw · 03/04/2025 23:52

She then hopped up onto the wall, with her arms behind her, her legs bent at the knee and her head tossed back in a “carefree” manner. She stayed there for at least five minutes while her boyfriend took pictures from various angles.

Yes, that's exactly the type of thing. I don't have socials myself but it was that kind of pose that I know they do. This is a really beautiful place and all they wanted to do was have multiple pictures of themselves pretending to enjoy it - while paying scant attention to it - with no other people anywhere in their shot. It wasn't enough that no one get between them and the camera, there couldn't be anyone present at all during these prolonged impromptu photo shoots.

And telling me I was in the way! It's the other way round - they were in my and everyone else's fucking way.

Edited

Its a really weird way to look at holidays/ life isn't it? As if the point of a holiday is to acquire photos. As if the point of life is to acquire photos. So they are not just a nice momento. But the entire point.

LeaderBee · 04/04/2025 13:45

QuirkInTheMatrix · 04/04/2025 06:21

I’m pretty sure you can edit randoms out your photos these days if you’re bothered about that 🤷‍♀️. Surely an instagrammer can do that?

I've seen adverts for phones that can do exactly this and it makes me feel, i don't know, annoyed, upset, dissappointed? that it's a built in feature to fake perfect shots - I just see the inclusion of these kind of apps to be enabling and encouraging this selfish attitude. I have to second guess if anything I see is real anymore!

TonTonMacoute · 04/04/2025 13:51

"I'll move in a bit when I'm ready, you'll have to wait until then I'm afraid."

Trousername · 04/04/2025 13:51

I'm thinking of opening an Instagram account where I'd just post photos of these posers doing their ridiculous contortions in front of beauty spots etc. Might be fun.

BashfulClam · 04/04/2025 13:57

Had this at Edinburgh castle. It was peak summer season (we should have gone on a different visit as we have HS access). One Italian woman kept screaming at people daring to be within 10 feet of what she wanted to photograph. The place was packed so nowhere to really move to. The best moment was when the 1 o’clock gun was about to be fired she pushed her way right in the front and stood in front of people who got there first. She also pushed me aside and kicked at my shins. I waited until the second before the gun was fired the shoved her really hard so her video was spoiled. She turned round but as the crowd was dispersing she couldn’t ascertain who had shoved her. I may have elbowed her a few times to jostle her camera before hand,…well she was so close (she was practically in my jeans with me) that it was hard to avoid her.

KimberleyClark · 04/04/2025 13:58

LeaderBee · 04/04/2025 13:45

I've seen adverts for phones that can do exactly this and it makes me feel, i don't know, annoyed, upset, dissappointed? that it's a built in feature to fake perfect shots - I just see the inclusion of these kind of apps to be enabling and encouraging this selfish attitude. I have to second guess if anything I see is real anymore!

My phone does this. It’s not perfect, it won’t always select everyone you want to remove,and doing it by hand doesn’t always work, but removing random people from your photos is strangely satisfying.

KimberleyClark · 04/04/2025 14:01

burningmountain · 04/04/2025 13:36

Its a really weird way to look at holidays/ life isn't it? As if the point of a holiday is to acquire photos. As if the point of life is to acquire photos. So they are not just a nice momento. But the entire point.

Photography used to be seen as a proper hobby,I think phone cameras have rather spoilt that. Everyone is a photographer now!

LeaderBee · 04/04/2025 14:02

Decorhate · 04/04/2025 07:43

I was visiting a very popular church in Spain with a group of friends. Loads of tourists who didn't care what the building was about (one kept referring to it as a castle!). One of my friends deliberately photobombed all their photos!

Sagrada Famillia? sure it looks fancy but i feel sorry for anyone confusing it with a castle

nomas · 04/04/2025 14:05

KimberleyClark · 04/04/2025 14:01

Photography used to be seen as a proper hobby,I think phone cameras have rather spoilt that. Everyone is a photographer now!

Yes, I used to know a few people who thought they were Mario Testino because they bought a Nikon. Their earnest Flickr accounts were amusing. Once the likes dropped their interest stopped.

EverythingIsComputer · 04/04/2025 14:08

Influencer culture is ruining so much. Stand your ground, everyone gets their turn, they should wait for theirs.

BigDahliaFan · 04/04/2025 14:09

It's been getting worse - but this year we've been away on a city break - and I so noticed it this time. And yes, people doing the moody insta shots - staring into the distance like they are the only person there. We got a couple of looks as we were openly impersonating at one point as one couple got so annoying!

KimberleyClark · 04/04/2025 14:10

nomas · 04/04/2025 14:05

Yes, I used to know a few people who thought they were Mario Testino because they bought a Nikon. Their earnest Flickr accounts were amusing. Once the likes dropped their interest stopped.

I have always loved proper cameras, grew up with a dad who was an enthusiastic photographer, and had an SLR long before phone cameras were a thing, and even though the phone is very useful, it’s not the same as having my camera in my hands.

KimberleyClark · 04/04/2025 14:12

BigDahliaFan · 04/04/2025 14:09

It's been getting worse - but this year we've been away on a city break - and I so noticed it this time. And yes, people doing the moody insta shots - staring into the distance like they are the only person there. We got a couple of looks as we were openly impersonating at one point as one couple got so annoying!

Like that wonderful woman who recreates silly Instagram videos by vain idiots and puts them on Facebook.

Jobs4kids · 04/04/2025 14:18

Few years ago was up on Dartmoor with DH & the kids. It was very quiet and we were the only ones around enjoying sitting in the sun on one of the little clapper brid. Then a group of tourists turned up (4 or 5 of them I think) and after a few minutes one of them shouted across asking us to get off the bridge as we were spoiling their photos. The way he asked annoyed us (rude) so we said no sorry we're happy sitting here. They persisted asking (demanding) we move. DH in particular saw red and basically told them to sod off. Probably not the best response in hindsight as it escalated into a bit of a row and we felt obliged to leave and told them to get on with it!

KimberleyClark · 04/04/2025 14:22

I do get frustrated when there’s people in an otherwise perfect shot but fully accept I have no business asking them to move!

LeaderBee · 04/04/2025 14:22

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 04/04/2025 13:03

Is it just me hearing this said by David Attenborough? 😁

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Enjoy!

DazzlingCuckoos · 04/04/2025 14:52

"Sure, in a minute, when I'm finished enjoying the view myself"

If they persist "look, I've as much right to be here as you have - I'll move when I'm good and ready but in the meantime you'll just have to be patient", then proceed to spend at least 5 more minutes longer than even I had planned.

If possible I'd also try and stay in the background of shots scratching my head with just my middle finger in shot...!

Maddy70 · 04/04/2025 14:53

Just say I'll have to wait I'm enjoying the view

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