It's long because I want to give full context, if you get to the end then thank you! I've NC.
I've been seeing somebody for a while but haven't met this friend of his who he spends a fair bit of time with. The friend lives opposite a family member of his which is how they met. The friend is in his 50's and gay, my boyfriend is in his thirties and straight, as far as he says.
I was at his house this evening, a spontaneous visit we planned last minute. Whilst I'm there the friend was calling and texting him wanting to come round. BF told him he had some workmen coming so it wasn't a good time. Apparently he'd been asking to come since the morning.
BF eventually calls him back and puts him on speakerphone whilst pottering about. The friend cracked a joke which made me laugh, at which point the friends tone changes and he says "well I see you've got company, bye then"
BF says I'm his neighbour (?!) and the friend hangs up.
Immediately I'm thinking what the fuck? I asked why he told him I was his neighbour and his response was that he didn't want the guy to think he was "bombing him out" for somebody else, as he'd been asking to come round and he'd been fobbing him off about having workmen coming as he couldn't be bothered hosting.
I probe a little bit and find out two things;
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This friend had advised him to dump me a few months ago. (I was newly single after a long term relationship and he knows my ex personally, so a bit awkward perhaps but by no means inappropriate. His friend said it wasn't fair towards my ex - who knew I'd moved on and funnily enough was fine with it)
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He had borrowed just under £2,000 from this friend to complete a project on the house, and the friend has done him other favours.
The first thing my mind went to was that the friend has some sort of crush on him and worst case scenario but god forbid - BF enables and encourages it because he benefits from the friendship.
I 'jokingly' (half seriously) asked whether he thinks his friend might see him as more than a friend hence being arsey when he hears a woman in the background.
He said no he hasn't and added "we don't banter like that but I've told him straight anyway not to try any of that stuff with me"
Why would he need to 'tell him straight' if there has never been any weirdness?
My mind goes back to few months ago when he mentioned this bloke. He raised the fact that he's gay and how he 'has a laugh' with him but he knows not to 'try anything funny'
As an aside, sex with him is quite robotic. He barely touches me when we DTD, no oral or foreplay from him at all. I put it down to him being shy and inexperienced but now I'm wondering if there is more to it.
Am I losing the plot or paranoid?
What would you be thinking?