Friends forgetting birthday present then not wishing a happy birthday

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I had asked if we were still doing birthday presents a week ago just because my daughter with autism struggle with birthday gifts etc which they replied they forgot but asked what I wanted

then they haven’t wished me a happy birthday. We’ve been friends over 10 years and are going on holiday next week. They are also coming over to my house for my birthday too

we all post for each other birthdays and they post each others very early in the day but they haven’t for me? I feel very awkward and unwanted

i really don’t feel like going on this holiday

my friend even messaged my sister happy birthday a few months ago and not me? They only know each other through me and have only seen each other a handful of times.

what do I do? Am I overthinking this or is this justified?

Why have you started two identical threads?

You are overthinking !
Maybe I’m the odd one out but I have a lot of really good solid friends and it wouldn’t enter my head to worry if I didn’t hear from every single one of them on my birthday ! My best friend of 36 years will usually ask me if I had a nice birthday unless it’s a milestone one. Usually get together every couple of months with girlfriend “groups” and toast anyone’s birthdays we’ve collectively missed - the end.
Eveyone is different but it’s about your children now.
i have a SEN daughter like you and my birthday is more about her tbf. Shes 14 but absolutely loves making a huge deal of my birthday.
As for not going on holiday because of this, can I be brutally honest? You sound like hard work. Chill and learn from it. Perhaps you really are hard work and being a bit more chilled on holiday talk and let your friend know it’s important to you that she remembers and maybe you’ll get a card next year.

what @mumzof4x said. She puts it very kindly.

I would think you're being immature at best.

You're really thinking about cancelling a holiday because someone didn't say Happy Birthday on Facebook? Yes, you're being ridiculous.

What does your daughter have to do with asking your friends for a birthday gift for yourself?
Presumably if they are coming to your house for your birthday they will bring a present then?
You want to cancel a holiday because your friend hasn’t gotten got a birthday present?

Maybe they forgot. What's the big deal?

Not sure how old your are OP but somewhere in my 30s I completely stopped caring about stuff like this.

To me, friendship isn't valued by who knows when your birthday is (and remembers to put it in their calendar), it's valued on hundreds more important things.

I rarely use Facebook these days but on my birthday the same 10 or so people will posts a Happy Birthday message on my wall. I assume Facebook prompted them because most of them I haven't seen or spoken to in at least a decade.

Meanwhile two of my closest friends had no idea when it was because I hadn't told them. But I can tell you who I would have rather spent the day with.