Childs school

[lurker1000]

So, I don't know if I am being unreasonable here...

Today I was telling my husband a story about how I had been talking to colleagues about our children went to a catholic school - and I'd mentioned this as part of the discussion.

He got annoyed and said but they are not religious - this is true. I said I wasn't talking about their religion, merely stating that they went to a catholic school.

He then said I don't want you talking about that.

I got annoyed and said 'please don't tell me what I am allowed to say when outside'. He's now annoyed and not speaking.

AIBU? I feel that I should be able to speak freely and I wasn't saying something that isn't true?

He doesn’t want you to state the fact that their school is catholic? Most people will already know if they’re local.

Did you ask him why he doesn't like it?

Eh?
I don’t understand the issue? Did he explain why he doesn’t other people knowing your kids attend a catholic school. If you’re in England (or Scotland or wales for that matter) I can’t see why 99% of people would care?

I would guess it's because the church is becoming increasingly connected to abuse and homophobia? Although if he's too embarrassed to tell people, you have to wonder why he sent them there in the first place!

His reaction was 'but they are not catholics' - I agreed and said that wasn't what I was talking about, I literally just said they attend a Catholic school.

It was more that he then told me 'I don't want you to say that' that bothered me - I said that I was merely stating a fact and I didn't like the idea that he wanted to control what I said, but maybe I overreacted?

He's now in a mood - likely to last a while.....

He sounds delightful. Maybe a bit of faith could help him..

His reaction seems so extreme that it doesn’t make sense. Is there something missing? What was the conversation and what else did you tell your colleagues?

What’s so terrible about being a Catholic? Jeez. What a hypocrite. Wants the educational standards and the benefit of the values the school promotes no doubt, but embarrassed about the culture behind it. What a knob.

We've had issues in past - been working on rebuilding and this happens every few weeks - where I say or do something that sets him off (always my fault). Generally things have been really good.

But literally that was the conversation. I mentioned that I was talking to my colleagues about schools and it led to that

Other examples i.e. our dog was being annoying when I was cooking and I almost tripped over and said 'bloody dog' - he didn't speak for days (admittedly he loves the dog a lot - but feels like another example of whenever I am myself and not following what he wants or expects, then I'm in the wrong)

He's in a mood - I know the script - it will last for a few days, I will be in the wrong and I'll be expected to say sorry. Just annoyed.