I have a friend like this and it’s really starting to get on my nerves. AIBU?
Some examples
- I had recently had a short relationship with a man who was a single father. He spent time with his child every weekend and during the week. Both of us had full time jobs, which made it challenging to find time to meet, and ultimately, I decided to end the relationship. When I shared this with my friend, she made me feel guilty suggesting I wanted him to stop seeing his child, which was not true. I just mentioned that dating someone with this specific arrangement was challenging. A couple of months later, my friend and her partner went through a separation, and they agreed to alternate weekends for the kids. She mentioned to me that this arrangement was fair, as both of them needed time for themselves away from parenting, to be able to date, meet up with friends etc. In my case though, she stated that the father should have had his child every weekend.
- My friend does not drive and has no desire to learn, believing that cars are a waste of money. Since I do drive, it has become the norm for me to pick her up and drop her off whenever we get together. She never suggests using public transport, meeting me at a different location or sharing the cost of petrol. Interestingly, she has another friend who also doesn’t drive, and she has expressed frustration about that friend not making an effort to meet her halfway or visit her home. However, she seems to expect me to do just that.
I have many more examples, but these two came to mind first.