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Colleague constantly ringing in sick

42 replies

StuckHurtDone · 02/04/2025 18:45

And I mean constantly… at least a week per month! Not that age matters but she’s a young adult ~21 and has been with the company for around 9months. She is part of two teams at work, but prefers one team, and strays to the other side even when she’s meant to be working on the other If that makes sense?
for background…. She is part of a wealthy family (who are clients of ours) and has made it clear that she ‘does not need the money’ in the sense that her wages are ‘play’ money, and she also gets an allowance from her partner monthly!
nobody’s financial situation is anything to do with me, I understand that! BUT…. She is having such a detrimental effect on our workload. Managers just seem to accept it… but I have worked myself to the bone the last 2 days and am done in knowing she will now be off the rest of the week, and having to work 2 people’s jobs!
coupled with the sickness she is late EVERYDAY,
something I’ve bought up every single time she’s late… but I just get told ‘it’s noted’ but nothing is done about it. She costs us at least an hour every week in lateness and yet everyone else busts a ball to be on time (early most of the time!).
she has 2 managers as she works cross dept, but none of which want to pursue any complaints…. Do I go to HR myself?

id like to add that if someone is genuinely sick I get it, it can’t be helped, but there’s patterns and preventable in my opinion. I have no problem with someone being off sick, I myself was off sick last year for around 4 weeks, but this was supported by a drs note, and due to a mental breakdown (nothing to do with work). These sickness episodes are for around a week a time, and always trivial….

OP posts:
simpledeer · 02/04/2025 20:32

@Duggeewoof I see you didn’t get the tongue in cheek reference.

Genuinely though, OP is at risk of making herself look more problematic than her colleague, no matter how unfair that is.

godmum56 · 02/04/2025 20:34

Definitely good advice on here. Account for the work you have done and leave the rest. Rinse and repeat. While you continue to flog your guts nothing will be done.

LlynTegid · 02/04/2025 20:38

Weak managers are not good and regardless of the circumstances of your colleague this should not be brushed over. Hope you can get something done about this.

namechange55465 · 02/04/2025 20:41

"why x,y,z hasn’t been done?"
"Because Sally is off sick."

If they are getting at you about prioritising "wrong", then ask them in the morning when she is off. "I am going to prioritise A, B, C unless you would prefer me to do otherwise".

The problem really isn't that she's off sick - it's that your managers are expecting you to cover for her. So that's what you need to approach HR about, if it can't be resolved with your manager.

Wakemeupbe4yougogo · 02/04/2025 20:44

That sounds so frustrating. But if this has been going on for 9 months, nothing is going to change - I'd suggest management are happy letting it ride. So my option would be to look for a job where hard working and reliable employees are treated better because they are literally gold dust.

BlondiePortz · 02/04/2025 20:46

She must have been reading MN that is te answer to everything, but in reality unless thr management do anything it will continue

Bingbopboomboomboombopbam · 02/04/2025 20:49

If they haven’t done anything about it by now, they probably just won’t. It’s just poor, lazy management.

I have a similar issue at work - an extremely incompetent colleague, but he clocks in daily so apparently that’s “good enough”. I’ve been watching him do next to nothing for over a year now. I’ve accepted defeat and will just move jobs as soon as the opportunity arises.

gmgnts · 02/04/2025 21:04
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There is nothing that saps the morale of conscientious workers more than witnessing slackers and piss-takers getting away with it! Management need to step up and deal with this.

lap90 · 02/04/2025 21:18

For a moment i thought we might be colleagues as it’s the exact same in my workplace… i understand your frustration.

SausageMashBeans · 02/04/2025 21:45

She’s 21 and gets a monthly allowance from her partner?!

Mistressofpemberly · 02/04/2025 21:50

StuckHurtDone · 02/04/2025 19:19

I completely get that I need to stop doing 2 people’s jobs, and I’d like to say I could, but I’m a very demanding job, where things can not be left to another day, so by 12pm I feel like I’ve worked 100hours! I have consistently gone to management, but it’s brushed over, so do I now escalate to HR?

No you just be an employee… work to the line and let the managers deal with it.
if you take pride in your work that’s difficult. But just do it and the situation will resolve. It’s not your problem.

louderthan · 02/04/2025 23:29

I have nothing to add to the excellent advice given by others but I am shocked that you are expected to disclose personal medical details in a group WhatsApp chat!! I’d be straight to HR with that if I was you. Potentially a serious breach of GDPR surely?!

namechange55465 · 03/04/2025 20:03

louderthan · 02/04/2025 23:29

I have nothing to add to the excellent advice given by others but I am shocked that you are expected to disclose personal medical details in a group WhatsApp chat!! I’d be straight to HR with that if I was you. Potentially a serious breach of GDPR surely?!

I missed this!

IIRC legally you don't even have to tell your manager why you're off. So being expected to tell all your colleagues is pretty shocking.

BoredZelda · 03/04/2025 20:10

louderthan · 02/04/2025 23:29

I have nothing to add to the excellent advice given by others but I am shocked that you are expected to disclose personal medical details in a group WhatsApp chat!! I’d be straight to HR with that if I was you. Potentially a serious breach of GDPR surely?!

Yep. You can’t be forced to divulge private health information to your colleagues. I can’t believe this is the system for calling in sick. Of course they’re reported something minor, they aren’t going to tell the truth on there.

Beautifulweeds · 03/04/2025 20:15

Can't you say unable to do because her job wasn't done? Or just forward anything to do with her input and cc it?

Nepotism can only last so long I hope. Xx

Brefugee · 03/04/2025 20:17

StuckHurtDone · 02/04/2025 19:19

I completely get that I need to stop doing 2 people’s jobs, and I’d like to say I could, but I’m a very demanding job, where things can not be left to another day, so by 12pm I feel like I’ve worked 100hours! I have consistently gone to management, but it’s brushed over, so do I now escalate to HR?

yes, they can be left to another day. Do your job, flag up that you can't manage more, and keep on doing that.
Just drop the rope, make sure your back is clear for your own work, and maybe handle one or two extras "to show willing" but you don't have to cover for anyone.

Do you have minimum safe staffing levels? flag up the fact that you are falling under those, if it is the case. Call in sick for 2 days for stress to recover, and then just do your work.

ETA: whenever you get a new task, ask (preferably in writing or within someone else's earshot) what you should drop to prioritise that task. Keep on doing it for every single task, especially extra ones.

LadyGaGasPokerFace · 03/04/2025 20:28

I bet if her parents knew she’s pulling sickies they’d be pissed off. It’d really show them up that she’s behaving like that. They didn’t get to where they are without hard graft. They’d be embarrassed. Shame that you can’t let the cat out the bag…

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