to consider sending DD to the childminder's tomorrow when HER dd is ill at home with

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possible glandular fever, because I have a massive deadline to meet at work this week, nad am behind because I'm part-time

Sorry but yes, you are. Glandular fever is horrid, I wouldn't let another child near if I could avoid it. Can your childminder suggest any of her c/m friends who might be able to take dd?

is the cm not closed she should be or is she doing this as a favor?
depends how old her child is? is she old enough to stay in bed upstairs all day?

YABU. I never took mindees if my dd was ill because I didn't want others catching it. Also, the last thing a sick child needs is another well child running round her when she feels like s**t.

Er, you do know that you could catch it as well as your DD don't you? Ask Cod about the joys of GF as an adult.

No, not closed, she says it's not contagious. Also is not diagnosed yet, her DD not got blood test results back yet.
I'll be totally in the shitheappile at work if I don't go in and drop everyone else in it, but DH says since we don't even know CM's DD has actual GF DD2 should go ,and he won't stay home

She is eight, the CM's DD.

Do what you need to do, but glandular fever is horrendous, I had it at 18. My throat was so swollen, nothing could pass through it... my tonsils met in the middle. Every gland in my body was swollen. It IS contagious.

The illness lasted a couple of weeks, the aftermath, at least six months.

Not worth the risk IMO.

I wouldnt risk it personally . Imagine if she did get it how would you feel .

yabu but you know that

DH has agreed to stay home reluctantly but I have to call CM 'as it is my decision not his'

Dh needs a kick up the behind - clearly doesn't know how serious GF can be. The effects can last for MONTHS leaving the patient completely wiped out - my poor sister had to abandon her A-levels half-way through and take a year out.

And your childminder is barking, of course it's contagious, how on earth does she think people catch it? Stereotype is teenagers snogging but you can catch it from close contact without any tonsil hockey.

What edam said. GF is contagious and horrible.

Your CM doesnt sound very responsible imo

Glandular fever's proper name is Infectious Mononucleosis, so that clears up whether or not it is infectious.

It is most common between the ages of 12 and 20, and is mainly transmitted in saliva - it is known as the "kissing disease," hence the age group in which it is most common.

More than half of infected people do not develop symtpms and are unaware that they have been infected.

If infected, symptoms can persist for months however.

I developed ME after a serious bout of Glandular fever in my teens. I have never experianced worse pain since and I include childbirth in this... So no do not send her it is not worth the risk.

Tell your DH to stop being a silly fool and stay home with your DD. You have a kid, you get the crappy bits as well as the fun bits. The rule is that the person with deadline goes to work in a two-career family if kid is ill, it's as simple as that and it is NOT 'your decision', it is your joint decision AND your joint responsibility as parents. Give him a kick up the arse and ask him if he fancies staying at home for eight weeks with a DD with glandular fever. Cos I've had it and that's how long I took to get better.

And people wonder why these diseases just keep on spreading?

GF is really really horrible, I first had it at 11 yrs old after a nasty virus of some other variety. Truly horrible, but it is not contagious/ infectious unless they exchange some kind of bodily fluid.

That said, i think its really unfair of the CM to be taking Dc's at all, if her Dd is poorly. I mean, she will be feeling really really rotten even if its not GF. THe dr must suspect it, and she must have the signs and symptoms, even if its not actually diagnosed yet, or ever. It doesn't always even appear positive in testing.

I really think you should re-consider. I'd not say YABU, however, a little unfair on all concerned.

ps when I say I first had it, i now get struck with it post virally, or if really run down, get all the signs and symptoms. its bloody rotten. wouldn't wish it on anyone- managed to pass it on to my DH 2 years ago, and he's just feeling GF'y again now. I feel so guilty!

Edam, it really isn't contagious unless you have really close contact with someone. you can't pick it up from sharing a mug even. Toothbrush - possibly. Its not that easy to catch at all. It is easier and more common to just develop it yourself post virally or after some other kind of nasty infection. Horrible thing it is.