DH asked DB to collect SS- AIBU?

[Glenda56]

Just wondering how I should feel about this. My DH was due to collect his son (my SS) from mum's (DH ex-wife) 1.5hrs away. When he heard from my brother was visiting me, he went behind my back to ask my brother if he could collect his son and save him a 3hr round trip. I don't think I'd have had any real objection to this had it come up in conversation before. But I only learnt about it from my brother when he was on the way to visit me (after he'd picked up my SS).

My DH and DB get along well but are not close friends. DH is over 10 years older than DB.

Please feel free to tell me I'm making a mountain out if a mole hill (or no hill)!

Why is this an issue for you?

What exactly is your issue?
Do you believe that your brother couldn't have refused? I assume he lives near to SS mum and it wasn't a 3 hour trip for him.

I think you are being unreasonable really, unless there's a huge backstory of your DH bullying your brother.

Was it on his way - did he simply have a minor detour?

I don’t understand the issue. Is it purely that your DH didn’t mention it to you?
If so, it’s a bit strange but not something I could get worked up about tbh

I think you are overreacting, and it is not a big deal. Why should your DH involve you? It makes sense for him to speak to your brother directly. And it is good of your brother to do him a favour.
Not an issue.

What is it you think it wrong about it?

I suppose it's more that we were talking about my SS coming back and DH never mentioned that my DB was collecting him.

But I can see that I shouldn't give it any more thought!

Was it out of his way?
odd your DH didn’t mention it.

I think asking you to ask your DB would have been weirder.