To find my partner’s comments unacceptable?

[Celia24]

And actually consider breaking up over them even when I’m happy otherwise.

Last Christmas my mum gave him a present which he loved. In the bag she also included chocolate coins. This is what everyone in our family gets in their stocking including the adults.

so apparently when he opened this his mum joked ‘why chocolate coins for a grown man?’. It is both her saying it and his need to tell me this.

Secondly, she bought him a bottle of champagne for his birthday. As we were drinking it he commented it wasn’t the really expensive stuff but still nice. WTF?

I just feel like I can’t let this disrespect towards my lovely kind mother slide.

I want to also mention they get along well and he’s lovely to her face.

This is quite a high bar. Breaking up over it seems extreme.

Well to be fair it was his mum that said about the chocolate coins, and I’d be calling him ungrateful about the drink but it’s not enough for me to break up with someone with, are you happy with him otherwise?

I agree that there was no need for him to tell you that his mum had said that and his comments on the champagne are just rude. Is this the only area where he is unnecessarily negative?

He can be negative otherwise. But not all the time by any stretch. We are happy together.

It hurt my feelings because my mum is being kind and has welcomed him to the family.

I probably wouldn’t break up over this if he is generally kind and respectful, but I would say something like “it really upsets me when you make these sneering comments about my mum, can you tell me why you think she deserves that?”

I think his response might tell you whether this is genuinely another (nasty) side to his character, or whether it’s learned behaviour (from his spiteful mother) which he is prepared to face up to and stop doing.

He also told me his mother can be mean previously and was hard on him growing up.

@sprigatito seems the Apple isn’t falling far from the tree. Yes I’d need this to change.

Can't see historical posts but if this is true then it's probably a BS post

“Why give Chocolate Coins to a Grown Man”seems like a reasonable question. Your family tradition, not there, and might be seen as a bit odd. Not sure why you are so paper thin about that.

Champagne.. I get.. some of the cheaper stuff is like battery acid. It’s good to get a cheaper bottle that tastes like a more expensive one (wish I could find it). It’s a factual comment.

Two, fairly innocuous, factual comments .. are you this sensitive about everything?

He sounds ill mannered, ungracious and like his mother.

Think long and hard do you really want to be around someone like that.

It only gets worse.

How is he either of these things ?

It was a decent Moët champagne imo. Nothing wrong with it even if it wasn’t Bollinger.

I find this crass and judgemental. I don’t make comments like this about gifts.

Some of the previous threads, and there are many of them, suggest OP doesn’t particularly like this partner at all.
Bizarre.

Moet, it’s not very good … I would sooner have no champagne than Moët. It’s is at the cheaper end, and is way too dry - good on him for drinking it.

I wouldn’t have even opened it.

Maybe one of your other men will like the Moet more

I’ve been given two bottles of Champagne in my life - once for my 21st birthday and once by an old boss, which I saved for my DC’s 21st birthday. Neither of us complained about the quality. He sounds ungrateful and entitled - so does his mother. Treasure your kind Mum.