To think people who are obsessed with calling out entitled behaviour are often massive hypocrites?

[mybestchildismycat]

Inspired by a trending thread this morning, but it's something I'm seeing everywhere - this obsession with labelling people as entitled for asking for completely normal, everyday favours or just a bit of consideration.

Since when did asking for something from someone close to you become some kind of moral failing? Why is hoping for a bit of consideration or understanding suddenly an outrageous imposition?

FFS we have families, friends, communities for a reason. Obviously no one’s saying you should bend over backwards every single time to accommodate other people's demands to the detriment of your own well-being. But we seem to be swinging so far the other way with this intolerance to being even slightly inconvenienced, this idea that our that our own time, energy, comfort etc should never be interrupted by someone else's needs, even from people we love.

I get that no one owes us anything. But isn't the idea that sometimes we have go out of our way to accommodate someone else's need pretty fundamental to relationships? Otherwise doesn't it all just become transactional and miserable and frankly really bloody selfish?

YANBU - the people who are most obsessed with entitlement are often the most selfish
YABU - people who call out entitlement are just protecting healthy boundaries

Yes. I find the MN obsession with not being taken advantage of odd. Just do something nice without expectation of repayment. Over a lifetime it's swings and roundabouts, even if it's not the same people.

I think that this is just another facet of a disproportionate number of Mners struggling with friendships or relationships in general.

They' don't understand friendship, are poor at communication, and there's a lot of going along with something that doesn't suit them for ages, seething with unspoken resentment, thinking that's what you do for friends, and then, when the other person doesn't reciprocate in kind (not having magically intuited that they were bending themselves out of shape, and doing something in return that doesn't suit them at all), the person blows up, and 'goes NC'.

I think all those endless 'CF' threads are primarily striking because of the wet lettuce behaviour that enables cheekyfuckery.

''...this obsession with labelling people as entitled for asking for completely normal, everyday favours or just a bit of consideration.''

YANBU. Surely the whole point of a close relationship is that we don't treat each other like strangers or casual acquaintances?