Seeing someone new but white lie?

[Newuserxxxx]

I don't know whether I'm being unreasonable or not. Sorry new here.

I've been in horrific relationships in the past where there's been small lies turned into big lies so I don't know whether I'm over thinking or not.

To keep it short, seeing someone new for a month, met on a dating app.

We added each other on Facebook the other day.

I noticed he posts loads of stuff, football stuff and other random funny stuff when he is at work.

But he has repeatedly told me he's been so busy with work before adding which is why he's gone ages not responding during the day, yet he's posting on social media when he's at work?

I don't expect him to respond to me quickly, I understand people get busy, I do too, but what is bugging me is he's lied, saying he's been so busy doing work, hasn't had time to respond, but posts a few times an hour on Facebook. He's given me a white lie.

Would this irritate you? The fact he's lied about something he has no need to lie about in the first place? It's such a small lie?

He comments on other people’s religions on Facebook? Can you give an example OP? I can’t think of one that wouldn’t make him a dick…

The loving the sound of his own voice and thinking his opinion is FACT would bother me way more than him posting nonsense during his working day.

Sharing a FB post vs replying and then possible conversation and worrying about how they may respond of replying quickly etc is very difficult. Stop been anxious your starting anxious vs avoidant issues here

It certainly sounds like you mind. He said he's busy (working and other things like everyone) some of that busy was posting on facebook, he may also have called a friend on the phone, or gone to lunch with his mum, who knows. You are not the only thing in his life, is he the only thing in yours? Should he have detailed everything he did that stopped him responding to you more quickly so that he wasn't telling a lie by omission?

I think you are massively over thinking this

Hi everyone, to the people who thought I was over thinking, turns out I wasn't. I had a woman message me on Facebook today and he indeed is in a relationship with her. She saw my messages on his phone. So I knew something was dodgy. I knew in my gut something wasn't right, then when I questioned him he twisted it and blamed me. Glad I got rid of him.

But your 'gut' feeling was just annoyance that he seemed to have time to post funny/football stuff/opinions on social media while claiming not to have time to message you at work. That has nothing to do with the fact that he was two-timing you with someone else.

It’s a red flag from you imo.

As much as it’s a good thing you’ve found out he’s not single, your concern was about him not messaging you when he’s at work not that he might already be in a relationship