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Maxie Allen and Rosalind Levine arrested - The vindictiveness of the school and police overreach

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Everanewbie · 01/04/2025 08:45

AIBU to worry that this type of incident seems to be happening more and more? To me, there are several concerning aspects to this story. Here is a link if you aren't yet aware.

www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2025/mar/29/parents-arrested-by-hertfordshire-police-for-complaining-about-daughters-school

Firstly, the apparent opaqueness of a public organisation and attempts to shut down private conversation and the vindictiveness the school has shown in attempting to silence this couple.

Secondly, the treatment of the pupil whereby she is being dropped off an escorted into school, and inability to discuss he disability and SEN with teachers, leading to multiple emails that were ultimately used against the couple.

And thirdly, WTF are the police doing? 6 Officers to arrest a meek professional couple, in front of their daughter. Holding them in a cell for 11 hours? Why are the police not dismissing this out of hand? I have always tried to be a supporter of the police, but how can reasonable people continue to accept this when they wont attend a burglary or detain shoplifters, but turn up in force for a middle class couple who called a governor a control freak in a private conversation?

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noblegiraffe · 02/04/2025 17:16

User46576 · 02/04/2025 17:13

How is that a misuse of emoji? I thought it was funny.

That you were corrected in the lie you posted about me?

No, I think I have the measure of you.

MrsIcandothis · 02/04/2025 17:25

BarchesterTowels · 01/04/2025 10:09

I actually know this couple. Not going to say much in case it's too outing, but they are lovely, altruistic people who do a huge amount for charity and their local community and frankly I couldn't imagine a couple less deserving of the treatment they received. They are also not the sort of people who will turn a blind eye if they think injustice is being done or (as with the school recruitment) due process is not being followed. Maxie Allen is or was a local councillor and cares deeply about things being done properly and openly. If that makes him a 'busybody' then I think he'd accept the label. But they absolutely did nothing wrong and the school's characterising legitimate concerns about governance as "harassment" is simply dishonest.

Thank you for sharing such a lovely and insightful post. They represent the moral character we hope to see more of in society.

User46576 · 02/04/2025 17:38

noblegiraffe · 02/04/2025 17:16

That you were corrected in the lie you posted about me?

No, I think I have the measure of you.

I didn’t post anything about you at all. Please extend the same courtesy.

Yorkshirelass04 · 02/04/2025 17:44

User46576 · 02/04/2025 17:11

I don’t think there’s any evidence in this case that they pushed the teachers at all. Rather that they have been treated shamefully by a school (it seems management rather than class teachers).

certainly anyway they did nothing unlawful and we must be free to discuss public bodies such as schools freely. That’s why I am particularly concerned

I understand freedom to criticise schools and teachers - but who creates a libellous WhatsApp group like they did. The messages are super petty and it was only a matter of time before the content was handed over. They should have kept their grievances private, especially as the man is allegedly a councillor and upstanding member of the community.

noblegiraffe · 02/04/2025 17:48

User46576 · 02/04/2025 17:38

I didn’t post anything about you at all. Please extend the same courtesy.

Yes, you did.

Lolapusht · 02/04/2025 17:50

User46576 · 02/04/2025 17:13

How is that a misuse of emoji? I thought it was funny.

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Lolapusht · 02/04/2025 17:52
No Way Omg GIF by Lifetime

Misusing emojis??

Lolapusht · 02/04/2025 17:56

Being petty doesn’t equate to libel.

Nor does it meet the standard for malicious communications.

I think that the vast majority of people would agree that if the messages met those standards then of course the school would be in the right. What a lot of people are pointing out is that there has been no evidence that the messages met that standard. A lot of people are also using the fact that they got banned as evidence that they deserved to be banned rather than questioning if the banned was justified.

The messages were posted in a private WhatsApp group of about 12-15 people, one/some of him have clearly forwarded them on to school.

Wishyouwerehere50 · 02/04/2025 18:02

I'm with @noblegiraffe. We know when people are being a bit of a shit. The laughing emoji; really immature and goady when it's actually not laughing at the fantastic and wonderful humour of a post. 😁

SMedia is becoming a cesspit.

I feel many things can be true in this case. I'm really uncomfortable with what the school did. Not ok. Do we have every piece of information? Maybe not.

I stand by the discomfort I have with how people communicate in forums where they have influence. ( Not talking about MN where luckily there's no personal impact!).

BunfightBetty · 02/04/2025 18:09

Yorkshirelass04 · 02/04/2025 17:44

I understand freedom to criticise schools and teachers - but who creates a libellous WhatsApp group like they did. The messages are super petty and it was only a matter of time before the content was handed over. They should have kept their grievances private, especially as the man is allegedly a councillor and upstanding member of the community.

What was libellous about what they wrote, in your opinion?

i’m curious, as nothing I’ve seen would amount to libel IMO.

SinnerBoy · 02/04/2025 18:19

SomethingInnocuousForNow · Today 16:41

Thanks for that, it's interesting that some of the other parents describe the couple as lovely and it being unexpected. Also, the other mother telling how the deputy head shouted at her and threatened to have her arrested.

For all those speculating that the couple were abusive and aggressive, it looks like the complete opposite. It sounds like the acting head has a bad case of DARVO.

GetMeOutOfMeta · 02/04/2025 18:29

It is pretty scary that they couldn't even find what they were looking for with 6 officers. Where are those officers when someone has been burgled? If a bloke is harassing a woman only 1 officer gets sent to see her then pop by and ask him to stop. Far more serious than parents having a moan that the school isn't doing what it is meant to.

First thing I wondered when I saw this was is one of the teachers married to a police head or have a father in the force? It was clearly meant to intimidate all of the parents at the school into keeping quiet.

Dillydaydreams · 02/04/2025 18:45

PicaK · 02/04/2025 07:40

Let me tell you how it comes across to me. (I'm a clerk in a school, governor in another. Parent of children with SEN.)

The guy stops being a Governor (not sure why) but then gets FOMO when the old head leaves. Bombards school wanting to know what's happening with recruitment. School politely refuse to tell a parent the ins and outs.

The guy demands whole group parent meetings. Won't let it go that he has to be involved or kept up to date.
Is so abusive to staff etc they end up banning them from playground. Now schools put up with a lot. More than most people realise. It takes somme pretty abusive and heavy handedness to get to that state

Then he gets bloody awkward. Email after email - probably a parent demanding instant answers from someone teaching his child and you know kinda busy. Then emailing again.
It honestly looks like he kept demanding to come in and talk about medication. Trying to get the round the ban. The school reasonably asks what he wants to talk about and he goes off on one - peeved because he's not getting his own way. So instead of writing it down - putting his kids first - he refuses and keeps demanding to come in.
Seen some of the WhatsApp messages. Described as banter by the couple. Well it's not. It's vile poisonous derogatory and vicious. Slagging off the school on WhatsApp is just not on.
Overall the couple come across as spoilt and too used to getting their own way. They're using their media connections to bully a school and governors who can't talk back.
There was obviously something said that prompted the school to show it to the police
So yeah. Spoilt, vindictive and quite nasty is how the parents come across.

This

whippy1981 · 02/04/2025 18:48

User46576 · 02/04/2025 17:08

About the parents you said:

”They are toxic and given that they mock the school after says it all”.

It’s already been screenshotted to you.

anyway enough. I have no wish to discuss your posts further

Yes the whatsapp groups are toxic. Thank god you found it and learnt to read and conveniently cut off the words before it which says it is about the groups! Now why would you do something like that? Of course to suggest something that it doesn't say.

It says:
"I have based my opinion on what I see daily from such groups. They are toxic....."

They means groups as I had clearly said in the sentence before which you chose to cut off to pretend I meant parents. Either that or your reading skills are very much lacking.

Yorkshirelass04 · 02/04/2025 18:53

Lolapusht · 02/04/2025 17:56

Being petty doesn’t equate to libel.

Nor does it meet the standard for malicious communications.

I think that the vast majority of people would agree that if the messages met those standards then of course the school would be in the right. What a lot of people are pointing out is that there has been no evidence that the messages met that standard. A lot of people are also using the fact that they got banned as evidence that they deserved to be banned rather than questioning if the banned was justified.

The messages were posted in a private WhatsApp group of about 12-15 people, one/some of him have clearly forwarded them on to school.

Private WhatsApp group of 12-15 people. An ex councillor, it's just naive. Be honest, would you have dealt with this this way?

SinnerBoy · 02/04/2025 18:55

YorkshireLass -

I understand freedom to criticise schools and teachers - but who creates a libellous WhatsApp group like they did.

The acting head forbade them from talking about the school, which she has no right, of authority to do. She threatened another mother with arrest, over another matter discussed by parents.

That's pretty Well textbook control freakery.

Not to mention that there is no lawful way to arrest someone for libel, as its a civil, not a criminal matter. The acting head seems to be a thin skinned egotist.

Sharptonguedwoman · 02/04/2025 18:58

PicaK · 02/04/2025 07:40

Let me tell you how it comes across to me. (I'm a clerk in a school, governor in another. Parent of children with SEN.)

The guy stops being a Governor (not sure why) but then gets FOMO when the old head leaves. Bombards school wanting to know what's happening with recruitment. School politely refuse to tell a parent the ins and outs.

The guy demands whole group parent meetings. Won't let it go that he has to be involved or kept up to date.
Is so abusive to staff etc they end up banning them from playground. Now schools put up with a lot. More than most people realise. It takes somme pretty abusive and heavy handedness to get to that state

Then he gets bloody awkward. Email after email - probably a parent demanding instant answers from someone teaching his child and you know kinda busy. Then emailing again.
It honestly looks like he kept demanding to come in and talk about medication. Trying to get the round the ban. The school reasonably asks what he wants to talk about and he goes off on one - peeved because he's not getting his own way. So instead of writing it down - putting his kids first - he refuses and keeps demanding to come in.
Seen some of the WhatsApp messages. Described as banter by the couple. Well it's not. It's vile poisonous derogatory and vicious. Slagging off the school on WhatsApp is just not on.
Overall the couple come across as spoilt and too used to getting their own way. They're using their media connections to bully a school and governors who can't talk back.
There was obviously something said that prompted the school to show it to the police
So yeah. Spoilt, vindictive and quite nasty is how the parents come across.

Ok, point taken but where can I find the messages?

whippy1981 · 02/04/2025 18:58

SinnerBoy · 02/04/2025 18:55

YorkshireLass -

I understand freedom to criticise schools and teachers - but who creates a libellous WhatsApp group like they did.

The acting head forbade them from talking about the school, which she has no right, of authority to do. She threatened another mother with arrest, over another matter discussed by parents.

That's pretty Well textbook control freakery.

Not to mention that there is no lawful way to arrest someone for libel, as its a civil, not a criminal matter. The acting head seems to be a thin skinned egotist.

She didn't say that. The letter said nothing of the sort.

WinterBones · 02/04/2025 19:13

So you're all going to ignore that fact this ridiculous temp HT had an officer tell a local MP who tried to resolve it that she'd have the police called on her if she didn't butt out?

Last i checked, local MP are meant to intervene in these situations, and having the school HT get the police to email her to tell her to butt out or be arrested herself is beyond ridiculous.

Sorry, the tHT is a crackpot with a very inflated sense of her importance.

WinterBones · 02/04/2025 19:16

"Ms Vince and MP (and former Deputy Prime Minister) Oliver Dowden found themselves recipients of veiled legal threats from Hertfordshire Police when they took an interest in the long-running affair.
She added: 'I emailed the school to see what steps were being taken to resolve this dispute and I received an email from a PC who was investigating the case telling me (and anyone I'd CC'd into the email, which included Mr Dowden), that we should essentially 'butt out', or face the threat of prosecution ourselves.'
The email, seen by MailOnline, signed by a PC Oliver Limb, says: 'I ask that your communication [with the school] as a third party ceases from this point onwards as you may find yourself being recorded as a suspect in a harassment investigation.
'I also ask that this warning to yourself is forwarded to any party that you have CC'd following your email.'
Mr Dowden told the Times: 'I'm astonished that a situation could have arisen where any police officer could think it would be remotely acceptable to suggest that an MP should be curtailed in carrying out their democratic duties.
'As the chief constable has promised, it's essential we get to the bottom of what happened here.
'And as a society we need to rebalance the culture on this, so that police focus on shoplifting, burglary and other crimes that rightly concern my constituents, and don't get bogged down and interfere in legitimate public debate.'
"

From the DM link above.

whippy1981 · 02/04/2025 19:19

WinterBones · 02/04/2025 19:16

"Ms Vince and MP (and former Deputy Prime Minister) Oliver Dowden found themselves recipients of veiled legal threats from Hertfordshire Police when they took an interest in the long-running affair.
She added: 'I emailed the school to see what steps were being taken to resolve this dispute and I received an email from a PC who was investigating the case telling me (and anyone I'd CC'd into the email, which included Mr Dowden), that we should essentially 'butt out', or face the threat of prosecution ourselves.'
The email, seen by MailOnline, signed by a PC Oliver Limb, says: 'I ask that your communication [with the school] as a third party ceases from this point onwards as you may find yourself being recorded as a suspect in a harassment investigation.
'I also ask that this warning to yourself is forwarded to any party that you have CC'd following your email.'
Mr Dowden told the Times: 'I'm astonished that a situation could have arisen where any police officer could think it would be remotely acceptable to suggest that an MP should be curtailed in carrying out their democratic duties.
'As the chief constable has promised, it's essential we get to the bottom of what happened here.
'And as a society we need to rebalance the culture on this, so that police focus on shoplifting, burglary and other crimes that rightly concern my constituents, and don't get bogged down and interfere in legitimate public debate.'
"

From the DM link above.

So who sent the email saying to butt out??

GetMeOutOfMeta · 02/04/2025 19:23

It really is making me wonder if we need a schools ombudsmen - Ofsted obviously has enough going on but parents do need to have a forum to communicate, perhaps even more so if something isn't working. Isolating parents from discussing "negative" things doesn't sound like a practical or forward thinking approach.

whippy1981 · 02/04/2025 19:28

GetMeOutOfMeta · 02/04/2025 19:23

It really is making me wonder if we need a schools ombudsmen - Ofsted obviously has enough going on but parents do need to have a forum to communicate, perhaps even more so if something isn't working. Isolating parents from discussing "negative" things doesn't sound like a practical or forward thinking approach.

Who said this couldn't happen?

GetMeOutOfMeta · 02/04/2025 19:33

whippy1981 · 02/04/2025 19:28

Who said this couldn't happen?

Um, that's why they were arrested, for talking negatively about the school on a group chat and calling one of the teachers a control freak.

SomethingInnocuousForNow · 02/04/2025 19:37

Yorkshirelass04 · 02/04/2025 18:53

Private WhatsApp group of 12-15 people. An ex councillor, it's just naive. Be honest, would you have dealt with this this way?

It could definitely be dealt with differently, doesn't make it illegal.

We can't have police arresting citizens because some people believe they behaved poorly. Crikey, if that was the threshold everyone in the country would have been arrested at least once!

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