Ridiculous Really

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I've been online friends with a chap for years. Occasionally shared messages about music mainly, not romantic, just friendly and updates with what happening in our lives. Probably around 8 or 9 years through relationships and single periods, never wanted more. Just random.

Sent random message as is usual but this time a single grey tick, remains. I've been blocked. Feels strange. Stupid really but still a slight connection gone.

Anyone else had similar?

I’d say it’s possible he’s in a relationship with a partner who might be insecure about you chatting and resents the connection so requested he blocked you.

I can understand how upsetting that is with no explanation.

I know it’ll leave a bit of a hole in your life at first as chatting was something you’d gotten used to, I’d just wait and maybe he’ll unblock you at some point. I wouldn’t want to continue the conversations at that point but you’d get your answer. You might feel differently.

If he doesn’t unblock you then you are upset now but it won’t last forever, I assume you have lots of of other people around you in life who love you?

Or maybe they have lost their phone or deleted what’s app. Could be anything

Very true.

I'm generally a lonely person. So small interaction helped. I'd just have preferred a can't stay.in touch anymore.

I completely understand that I’m struggling myself at the moment feeling lonely.

I had to give up work due to disability so I sometimes feel a bit detached from the outside world and as I can’t socialise as much I communicate more online, I would feel the same as you in this situation, the small interactions make you feel less alone.

I am trying to look at any groups I can join or hobbies, I’ve got in touch with friends I haven’t seen for a long time and I looked into starting an online book group.

You are not alone in feeling lonely, I’ve noticed lots of people posting similar, do you work?.

If this man doesn’t get in touch again then don’t take it personally, you have no idea what’s going on in his life. See if you can find some ways of improving your own. If you don’t mind your own company but just want interaction with people then do more things alone if you can.
I go for meals, walks and even holidays on my own, the short conversations I have with people makes me feel less isolated but I enjoy my own company.

I hope this helps xx

How long ago did you send the message OP? Long enough to rule out Illness? Lost phone? Incarceration?

I've had all sorts of strange endings to friendships. I just accept that friendships come and go. I understand that it doesn't stop it from being painful.

You didn't know this man, you never met and anything could be going on for him. He might be having tech problems, he might be struggling with his mental health, something else might be going on.

An important life lesson is that we're rarely the reason behind the behaviour of others. What's important here is to take a look at the reason behind why you're lonely and try and work on that.