Or is exs fiancé being off?

[OneCoralMoose]

So, long story short, my ex is bi – I always knew and we split when DD (nearly 6) was 1. He’s now engaged to a man, who is honestly great with DD. Ex and I always wanted another DC, and since his fiancé wasn’t fussed about having his own but was supportive of us, we went ahead (no, we didn’t have sex). I had a complicated pregnancy, DS was 8 weeks premature, and I moved in with them for support. DS is now home, and we’re staying here for the next few months so ex can help with both DCs. It’s lovely for DD to have a full sibling.

I’m very conscious of giving them space as a couple. They went out for the day together today, and I encourage them to have their time. But earlier, fiancé asked ex to pop to the shops, and ex was settling DS, so he said he’d go in a bit. Fiancé then muttered, guess I’ll do it myself then and left.

Now, I get it’s an adjustment for everyone, but I can’t help but feel like he’s being a bit off with me.

I imagine it’s very difficult for everyone involved I don’t really have any advice but go easy on yourself. Have open and honest conversations with everyone.

You can’t be serious?

His partner needs to leave and find someone who doesn't move his ex in after having another baby with her.

Your exs’ fiancé is being astoundingly supportive.

I can understand him being a bit off with you. His partner’s ex has moved into his home. I would think he didn’t envisage this situation happening. I can’t see their relationship lasting.

It was crazy having a baby with your ex, especially given he already has a partner.

That was unplanned. We originally planned for us all to stay were we were, DD going to them as usual but my pregnancy was rough, especially the end and then DS came early. So they both suggested us all stay for a bit so ex could be more helpful with newborn. I think his fiance suggested it.

We also checked multiple times if he was sure about us going ahead and having DS, he was. He's a great stepdad but isn't interested in his own children so didn't want to adopt etc with ex.

Well he's obviously not okay with you being there so it's time to go home. Your ex can come with you or visit.

Your ex’s partner probably didn’t realise the reality of living with his partner’s ex and their two children. It’s probably time for you to go home now and for you and your ex to work out childcare schedules.

What a time to be alive.

You need to go home and sort out when your ex can have his share of the children etc.

This. Go home. You are intruding.

what a ridiculous situation to choose to put yourself in.

Presumably the fiancé didn’t expect find himself living with his fiancé’s ex and their newborn baby. You can surely see how uncomfortable that may be for this man?

I don't see from your OP how he has been funny towards you? Towards ex maybe.
Time to go home OP.

Have you ever had someone you really like come and stay with you for a few days? And be looking forward to it before they come but then after a couple of days just really wish they would go home so you could watch trash on telly in peace before going to bed at 8:37pm?

What a mess. This was a selfish ridiculous situation for you and your ex to get into, the fact your ex is engaged to a man is irrelevant, to father a child with another person with an ex while in a committed relationship is completely disrespectful. Just change the sex of your ex’s partner for a moment in the story to realise how wrong this whole thing is.

If I were you, I'd be taking myself and the two children home and start establishing my own routine. Your ex can visit and help with the baby in your home. If you stay living with ex and his partner, you run the risk of relationships breaking down and life becoming considerably more stressful. Don't you want your own space?

You posted this the other day?

How unlike the home life of the venerable Princess Anne 😂

This ^^

All day long.

Poor bloke, I can't imagine why he stays with him while being treated not only second best but way further down the line than that.

This is batshit

Well that's one word...

You can be doing something because it's the right thing to do and still find it hard, you can be fine with it and still find it hard. I'd cut the guy a little slack and let it wash over you, it's a hard situation for all of you, but he has been very generous having you all there 24/7when he has no interest in being a parent. Hes made a big compromise for his partner. Given everything that's happened I expect you're not in a great place yourself and little things you'd usually shrug off might feel bigger and worse than they actually are. You all need a little grace from each other and to let the little things go.

I'm sceptical.