To want to disappear for 24 hours and let them fend for themselves?!

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Honestly, I am at breaking point today. I know I should feel grateful for my lovely family blah blah blah but I swear if one more person asks me where something is while LOOKING DIRECTLY AT IT, I will lose my mind.

Day started at 5am because youngest (4) decided she doesn’t need sleep anymore apparently. Middle child (9) somehow lost his school jumper again despite me putting it in his drawer last night. Eldest (12) is in a mood because I dared suggest she actually tidy the cesspit she calls a bedroom. And DH? Oh he’s been “really busy with work” all day, which basically means hiding in the home office and emerging only to eat whatever I’ve cooked.

I have done the school run, cooked, cleaned, played referee to about 500 sibling arguments, answered a million “Muuuuuum”s and now they are still asking me where things are and still leaving everything for me to sort.

AIBU to check into a hotel, order room service, and just not tell them where I’ve gone?! I reckon it’d take them at least 12 hours before they even noticed I was missing.

I would bugger off for 2 nights ( at least ) .
Tell them that you are going away for 3 days and why

Don't do any additional preparation for them , just the normal stuff.
And go , find a nice hotel by the coast / city / countryside wherever you want and enjoy yourself.

Just be aware that your DH has the right to do exactly the same at some point.

book a spa day and tell DH to strap in - it’s his turn.

Dooo it. Your bloke can hold the fort.

Tell them you're going away for a couple of days so they don't report you as a missing person!!

Honestly. Just go.

I had to double check I hadn’t written this. My day has been the exact same and have spent the hour looking at spa days for tomorrow but annoyingly I can’t seem to book any with this short notice.

Go out for the day, get up early, leave a note telling them to figure it out and spend a day doing whatever you want in peace!

Do it

DM did once. We were older, about 16 and 13, and we had to look after DDad as well (Parkinson's). She just went, but left a message to say she was ok, just needed some time out. Found out later she'd gone to her parents, about an hour away.

Do it

Yabu if you think 24 hrs will make a difference. Make it a week.

This ^

Do it.

DH is taking DS(11) away without me on Friday. I can’t wait.

“If you don’t like the heat get out of the kitchen”, your family will soon learn that there is no magic fairy who does everything!

hope you have a nice rest, but I would suggest that when you return sit the family down and talk about boundaries as the more you give the more they will take.

Do you both work full-time?

You can go away. You can not find things for people and you can not cook for dh.

I'm a parent. I'm a parent to a child I didn't want - yes I know how bad that sounds. I'm almost a single parent. But I give everything to my child, I've had times similar to you. But I need to prepare my child for adulthood and everything that comes with it. Stick with it, for them, not you.

A break would do you good!

I had a mini breakdown the other week about how I seem to be the one who has to deal with everything. All has calmed down and luckily I have a long weekend away break coming up soon minus husband and children.

I've fucked off out of the house today and currently writing this from a cafe, with carrot cake and coffee in hand.

It's been a long weekend.