Would this comment heard in a nursery concern you

[Eva98]

If a child was not behaving very well at dinner time, throwing their fork and the response from staff member was ‘throw that at me one more time’. I’m not a nice tone. It sounded to me like a threat

It’s not ideal, but it’s the sort of thing said by someone who is feeling stressed. Possibly could do with some extra support/training.

hmm am almost on the fence. How did you hear this. Am thinking sometimes they are just at the end of there tether that day. we all cant be st theresa everyday. also we think its horrible for her to say this until sweet little jimmy throws the folk at our lovely little chloe then its all "my dc came home with an injury caused by a boy throwing folks and I have reported nursery to police because they didnt stop this assault. aibu?".
so yeah its not always easy
do i wish nursery worker hadnt said this? of course. but i also wish it qas always easy for them

Could be tone and eye contact to let the child know it wasn't acceptable? It would concern me if I'm honest, but then repeatedly throwing a fork is not great behaviour which needs to be resolved, I'm assuming it will be a child who has generally poor behaviour

If that was all they said it sounds like a threat. If the sentence continued it depends what else was said. My three year old waves her fork around at mealtimes. We tell her to stop, it's dangerous, if it hits someone it will hurt. If she doesn't stop I will often say "if you wave your fork around again I will take it off you and feed you like a baby/you won't be able to eat anymore (depending how much she's actually eaten and whether she's clearly waving it around because she's eaten enough and is bored)". She usually does do it again and the fork is removed.

There are so many of these threads where mums who rushed back to work asap because they found full time parenting so tedious and stressful, then expect serene perfection from young working class women being paid less than a Lidl cashier to spend an entire day in one room with 20 toddlers.
Complaints that they snapped at my child, they shouted, they emotionally manipulated my child by saying their behaviour made adults feel sad, they didn't stop another feral toddler biting child etc etc.
Nursery workers are human at the end of the day. How many parents can say they never raised their voice or became irritable with their child and that was with only a couple of children that you love.

why on earth was a fork being thrown!

Completely agree

and you are complaining that they were making a threat?
yet the bad behaviour was throwing a fork!

this is unbelievable.
dont let your offspring throw cutlery

Exactly! But you know it’s all about shit behaviour being acceptable these days. Instead of focusing on the naughty child let’s focus on this.

Erm...what a strange reply. No, she didn't say it to my toddler however my toddler is a a child in nursery and I gave my opinion on what I would think if it was my toddler she was saying it to.