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To report my neighbour for smoking weed?

48 replies

TwinklyRoseTurtle · 31/03/2025 17:22

Suns out and my nightmare NDN has started blaring loud music and smoking weed outside, I don’t mind what people do in their own homes however I’ve just had to get all my washing in from outside and shut my windows as the smell is coming in home. Every summer since she’s moved in has been the same and my children always complain of the smell of they have their windows open. AIBU to report her? Her home is social housing so not sure who I should report too but I just can’t face another summer of being unable to open my windows. Before anyone suggests talking to her she’s the unreasonable type who is always screaming at her kids and not friendly at all

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InspiritingNotion · 31/03/2025 18:21

The wild parties sound wretched by the way. I'm really sorry you have to put up with that.

MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 31/03/2025 18:24

DagenhamDaisy · 31/03/2025 18:07

I didn't say they HAs did or didn't have legal powers.

If you read my post properly I said they don't give a tiny fart.

The HAs do bugger all around here for the people who live in their properties whether they have the power to or not.

And that's if they bother to ring you back or answer emails.

Well, as an employee of a very large HA I can assure you we DO give a "tiny fart" as you so eloquently put it. Bit our minimal enforcement powers under the ASB Crime and Policing Act 2014 often means there is nothing we are able to do.

I suggest if you are contacting your HA and getting no response you utilise their complaints procedure and then go to the Ombudsman rather than making such incorrect sweeping statements about a whole host of staff who work for HAs up and down the country.

Showdogworkingdog · 31/03/2025 18:24

If the outdoor music is persistent and impacts you then that might constitute a nuisance and something the HA might follow up, but if they’re not reasonable then they probably won’t give a shit.

I sympathise on the weedy pong, my DM lives next door to a pothead. Pothead and my mum both have big 300ft long gardens but he’s built himself a sheltered outdoor den just next to his back door where he sits in a cloud of weed most evenings and all weekend. You can smell it from my mum’s front door, all around the top half of her garden (the section she can get into easily) and into her house unless she closes her windows. I’m going to have to have a word with him and I’m dreading it. Quite why it doesn’t occur to him the smoke drifts everywhere beats me, he seems like a nice chap, you know, chilled (unsurprisingly).

User32459 · 31/03/2025 18:24

fratellia · 31/03/2025 17:24

I’m not sure if they can really do anything about it?

I have the same from a neighbour from time to time, I hate the smell 🤢

Edited

Why not at least legalise, regulate and tax it then?

The fact it's been illegal and unregulated has led to it getting stronger and producing more of a stench (as well as allowing criminals to profit).

I don't mind it being illegal if it's actually policed properly. We've got the worst of both worlds.

user1471516498 · 31/03/2025 18:32

If the neighbours have children and are having lots of wild parties and smoking cannabis, I would be on the phone to social services. I am not aying that out of spite, but because smoking cannabis around children is a safeguarding issue. I would also make sure that your children stay away from your neighbour's children, not because they are a bad influence, but because you don't want your kids going to that house.

MyKingdomForACat · 31/03/2025 18:33

The police would have to arrest most of SE London

DagenhamDaisy · 31/03/2025 18:50

MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 31/03/2025 18:24

Well, as an employee of a very large HA I can assure you we DO give a "tiny fart" as you so eloquently put it. Bit our minimal enforcement powers under the ASB Crime and Policing Act 2014 often means there is nothing we are able to do.

I suggest if you are contacting your HA and getting no response you utilise their complaints procedure and then go to the Ombudsman rather than making such incorrect sweeping statements about a whole host of staff who work for HAs up and down the country.

I don't need to contact the HA as I don't live in a HA property.

However, many of my friends do and having read my local FB group for the last 10+ years, it's quite clear the HA here don't give a tiny fart.

You can speak for yourself, but you don't speak for the HA in my area.

MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 31/03/2025 19:32

DagenhamDaisy · 31/03/2025 18:50

I don't need to contact the HA as I don't live in a HA property.

However, many of my friends do and having read my local FB group for the last 10+ years, it's quite clear the HA here don't give a tiny fart.

You can speak for yourself, but you don't speak for the HA in my area.

You don't have any experience then....so I would suggest you don't have any clue what you're talking about. More likely, the HA has acted correctly and within the confines of the legislation by which they are governed but your "friends" just didn't like the answer.

mentallyilltotallychill · 31/03/2025 19:47

From a safeguarding perspective purely,… id be worried about smoking weed around her own children and the potential wild parties if her kids are young and theres not a sober or safe adult around, you can report those concerns if you have them to the LA children services. They probably wont do anything other than an initial assessment or the children may already be known or it may lead to them getting support. We dont know what goes on behind closed doors, there may be a sober and safe adult there, or there may not be.

regards to what may mount up to anti social behaviour, report it to thr ASB team. There may be other neighbours with the same complaints and things might mount up to the point of partial closure orders and full closure orders (although that does take a long time and the council/police have to apply to court to get one).

TwinklyRoseTurtle · 31/03/2025 20:17

Thanks for all the advice- for those worried about safeguarding her children aren’t there when she behaves likes this - I see the dad picking them up and that’s when she has the wild parties/ smoking weed/ all different types of men in so I know from a safeguarding perspective there is nothing they could do. It’s just nuisance behaviour, my family don’t even have the friendly neighbour relationship with her to say hello to broach it as she’s very hostile to me and all the other neighbours. I should have reported the antisocial behaviour a long time ago but another neighbour has done this ( in regards to another neighbour) and got absolutely nowhere. I guess I’ll just hoe she moves and keep my windows shut. Thanks all for advice.

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Bignanna · 31/03/2025 20:18

Whoarethoseguys · 31/03/2025 17:29

It is illegal though so she could be charged.
And I'm sure a housing association wouldn't be happy about it either

I think the Police won’t bother unless she’s dealing.

scorpiogirly · 31/03/2025 20:35

I feel you pain. Neighbour 2 doors down takes to smoking in his garden. My bedroom absolutely stinks when I go upstairs when I've had the window open, which is most of the time. The smell makes me feel sick.

Bologneselove · 31/03/2025 20:40

The police generally do nothing other than give a crime number for actual crime eg theft, so I serious doubt they’d do anything for someone smoking weed when it’s rife everywhere nowadays. There’s much more important things to occupy their time.

Bologneselove · 31/03/2025 20:42

Bologneselove · 31/03/2025 20:40

The police generally do nothing other than give a crime number for actual crime eg theft, so I serious doubt they’d do anything for someone smoking weed when it’s rife everywhere nowadays. There’s much more important things to occupy their time.

To add, I think weed stinks and I’ve never touched the stuff.

DagenhamDaisy · 31/03/2025 21:12

MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 31/03/2025 19:32

You don't have any experience then....so I would suggest you don't have any clue what you're talking about. More likely, the HA has acted correctly and within the confines of the legislation by which they are governed but your "friends" just didn't like the answer.

10+ years of complaints from local residents tells me you don't have a clue what you're talking about.

But you seem to think your little job means you know what goes on in every single HA up and down the country?

You clearly don't because you couldn't possiby.

BobbyBiscuits · 31/03/2025 21:15

Smoking in your garden isn't breaching your tenancy surely. The only people you could call would be the police but I doubt they'd see it as urgently pressing. I wouldn't personally report someone for such things.

MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 01/04/2025 08:08

DagenhamDaisy · 31/03/2025 21:12

10+ years of complaints from local residents tells me you don't have a clue what you're talking about.

But you seem to think your little job means you know what goes on in every single HA up and down the country?

You clearly don't because you couldn't possiby.

Complaints don't tell you anything, because you'll only get one side.

I hear complaints about not evicting tenants, but most people are shocked to find out HAs can't just evict residents, only a court can....for example. That's okay, I don't expect residents to understand the legislation behind those decisions, and I know residents can get upset when they don't get the answers they want but it doesn't change the legislation.

I'm not sure why you're being so rude, my "little" job is very important to be and I work really hard to make a difference in our residents lives. I've worked in the housing arena over a 25 year period, so I would suggest I have far more knowledge than Facebook.

I would suggest if you see people unhappy with their HA decisions, that you encourage them to utilise the complaints process and then the Ombudsman.

Isxmasoveryet · 20/07/2025 13:54

So it ok for her kids to be in that environment just not yours she is a mum after all so her kids r fine long as they with their mum lol

Isxmasoveryet · 20/07/2025 14:02

DagenhamDaisy · 31/03/2025 18:50

I don't need to contact the HA as I don't live in a HA property.

However, many of my friends do and having read my local FB group for the last 10+ years, it's quite clear the HA here don't give a tiny fart.

You can speak for yourself, but you don't speak for the HA in my area.

I love the old it on Facebook so it the gospel truth no evidence needed or questions asked crowd they provide lots of entertainment

Nobackstagepasses · 20/07/2025 14:10

Yes bloody horrible smell

DagenhamDaisy · 20/07/2025 14:30

Isxmasoveryet · 20/07/2025 14:02

I love the old it on Facebook so it the gospel truth no evidence needed or questions asked crowd they provide lots of entertainment

As much entertainment as bumping a 4 month old thread with a barely intelligible post?

There have been enough complaints from housing association tenants in my area over the last 10+ years, to show quite clearly that the HAs don't give a stuff.

Unless you think there's some sort of weird conspiracy theory, and these people have been playing a very long game of telling lies?

Laura95167 · 20/07/2025 14:35

Depends where you are in the UK no one will care unless hes growing or dealing. If the police caught him smoking hed get a fine at best

If youre in USA go for it

Catladywithoutacat · 20/07/2025 14:37

Have the same issue and HA said to call police. Didn’t bother they won’t do anything. It’s inconsiderate she’s inconsiderate but she may be able to be bribed with some flowers and food, maybe take this round?

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