To feel sad?

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Dh's friend and his wife who live just around the corner have told us recently they are moving. We hardly ever see them because they are away most weekends, and as much as l like the wife, we would never meet without the men.
I have a lovely social life and plenty of friends.
DH not remotely bothered.
Why do l feel so sad about it? I love where we live!

Is it because they're doing something new and you're bored of where you live?

I'm not sure why you are feeling so sad. Especially when you don't see them much and DH is unbothered.??

If DH spent lots of time with his friend, I could understand it as well because you might be worrying about how much time you'll get to yourself.

But nope, I'm just as confused as you!!

Are you subconsciously seeing it as a criticism of your own choice? A lot of the time, people get defensive if someone makes a different choice to them - you see it a LOT with school choices for example. Over-explaining their choice and maybe criticising someone else’s choice, to reassure themselves that their choice is ok. Same with a lot of parenting decisions. Maybe instead of getting defensive, you’re feeling sad, because they maybe don’t love the place as much as you do. Or maybe they love the place but they’re moving to where they go every weekend - nearer family etc?

Yes that could be it - they don't like it here as much as we do. Their kids have grown up and left home and our dd is still at school. But l am really happy here!

I understand that. Focus on yourself and your happiness OP ❤️

You're probably unsettled because they're your 'parallels', same area, similar lifestyle and life stage, and they're making a big change and it's left you, maybe even subconsciously, questioning whether you should too, and you don't want to. Also when people leave for something they see as 'better' it can feel a bit like a rejection of the previous thing and you can get a bit of a left behind feeling. You may even be a little despondent because they have an exciting new start and you're carrying on as usual. Regardless, if you're happy and they were only occasional friends, then the feeling should pass soon enough. If it doesn't, then might be the time to have a think about why you're sad and if its something in your life that you might want to change.