To not know how to brace myself for disappointment

[TheyNotLikeUs]

I need to reach out to a professional for support for my DD.

I suspect my request will be rebuffed based on past interactions.

I do need to try for her though as it's the right thing to do.

How do you you protect yourself from such hurt?

Lack of detail as it's outing. I'm stuck with this professional for the time being but hope it will change in 6 months.

i begin to presume id always get disappointed then i got used to accepting it then hope for the best and try for the best

Don’t pin all your hopes on one thing. Come up with other options and read some books on specialised parenting skills

Try to practise the conversation so you sound sure that your concerns are valid in your tone and vocabulary, don’t be hesitant or fawning. Convey your expectation that, as a professional, he will find a solution and not fob you off. Be polite but firm. Difficult, I know but it will give him less wriggle room to discard your concerns.

Be specific eg she has been getting headaches every two or three days since 16 March. They last for 90 minutes.
Be specific about how you have tried to remedy the problem yourself. That will side step him suggesting basic things like paracetamol or similar.

Have a list of questions that will require some thought from him e.g. can he explain why she has started getting these headaches now when she hasn’t had them before. What is causing them? Is he saying that she will be getting these headaches forever? Etc. Has he ever had a patient with these symptoms and it turned out not to be nothing? Be prepared to ask the same thing in a different way until you get satisfactory answers.

I’m assuming this is your GP, but the same applies to anyone who is paid to deal with your concerns. They are not paid to be dismissive. Even if your concerns are unfounded they have a duty to explain why that is the case.

I have been known to video specalist appointments. He kicked up a bit but I replied that he gives an enormous amount of information in a very short time on a subject of which I know little about. I needed to be able to refer back. I had to promise on my mother’s life that I wouldn’t share it in any way but he let me do it. It’s all deleted now.

@TheSandgroper 's suggestion is excellent. Recording phone calls is a bit more difficult, I think, in terms of how you might record both sides of the conversation clearly. Having been told more than once, that I have misunderstood or misremembered what has been said to me, although I am certain I haven't, it is something I feel I need to do in future.

I was not surprised by the reaction @TheSandgroper got but it does raise the question, why they don't want to be recorded. Calls to professional people of any kind usually have a recorded message saying that the call will be recorded for monitoring and training purposes before the caller is connected to who they need to speak to. So it seems fair and reasonable to me that the caller should also record the call for their own monitoring purposes and to replay the call to understand it better, which would be training themselves.

I'm veering away from OPs point, but I find it galling that the people with the least knowledge and the most need for protection are disadvantaged in this way.