To tell her to dump him?

[LoyalBird]

My friend has been with her boyfriend nearly 2 years. He's divorced, his divorce was finalising when they met. By friend is such a kind loyal soul and sometimes too nice for her own good, don’t get me wrong she has her faults.
her bf is very sarcastic and can be blunt, opens his mouth a lot without thinking, this it’s just his personality.
Hes told her he doesn’t love her yet, but hopes one day he will. Loves spending time with her and likes her a lot, cares for her etc. he is very awkward when it comes to feelings etc. almost like he shuts off. Struggles to talk about the future -he’s the kind of fella who can’t even decide what to have for dinner or plan for the week ahead with anything 🙄
they see each other a few times a week, he has one teenager she has no children.
ive told her I think she deserves more and she should dump him. AIBU?

Oh wow.
He hopes he might love her some day.
No wonder she's hanging on in there.

If he doesn't love her after 2 years he will never love her.

She's a place holder. Nothing more.
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What did she say when you told her?

She didn’t say much. said He can be very loving and makes effort and makes her feel wanted. I’m just unsure if his marriage ending and being divorced now plays a part in how he is and it’s almost a defence mechanism for him now to stop himself from getting hurt.

She's fooling herself.

You've said what you think, probably best just leave it unless she asks for your opinion.
Just be there for her when he meets someone and dumps her.

It's really none of your business OP.

I get you are concerned about your friend - been there, done that - but you cannot interfere in others' relationships.

She has to come to that realisation herself.

Maybe you don't like she has less time for you now?

im married so it’s not about that, I just want her to be happy and not waste years of her life.i appreciate what you are saying though and I know it’s her life to live and her mistake to make.