It’s a Mother’s Day one…

[spidij]

Same old. Every year, Facebook is full of my friends being taken out by their husbands and showered with lovely gifts. We had zero plans despite me mentioning we should do something. It’s just another day of feeling u appreciated. ONE DAY is surely not hard to make me feel special

A slice of toast in bed would do.

this year was particularly shit as H has woke up with diarrhoea (which clearly is beyond his control I know!) but on top of having no plans like usual, I’ve also had the pleasure of doing the packed lunches and ironing uniforms which he normally does.

upon being aware we had no plans, I invited my parents over for a roast which I had to cook. The second their forks went down, they went home and I was left with all of the washing up too. They didn’t stay there chat or entertain the kids which I’d been doing all day.

I know H is poorly, but I’m allowed to feel pissed off at the overall situation aren’t it? 😭

Yes you are entitled to feel like that. Book a day off work and do what you want to do, go for a facial etc

Fingers crossed his illness doesn’t pass on to you and your parents…

Yes it sounds very hurtful, it's just one day and it's nice to be appreciated on that day. Obviously with dh having the runs you were left with more things than usual to do. Do you do much on father's day?

yes you are, crap effort from your husband

Next year make your own plans make decisions on how you want your mothers day mine was always I.dont care what I do I'm just not cooking dinner, it's worked for 30odd mothers days, I don't want to be smug but I do think you need to set your own expectations.

Why did you invite your parents at the last minute?

you are right to be miffed, but it feels like you did make it more work.

To clarify. The parents were invited today… when I asked a few days ago if we were doing anything and he said we weren’t, I said should we invite them over and he said yes… he would have helped cook (and clearly that part I’m not mad at as he was ill!).

Do you mean they weren’t invited today? I dont get what you are clarifying

I got dumped so I win the pity party.

That's a bit more than no card or chocolate.
Hopefully it won't leave a big hole in your life and it's good riddance to bad rubbish.

Yes sorry - they WERENT just invited today. Just someone asked why I made more work for myself. They were invited a couple of days ago

It’s not a competition - I just wanted to vent about my crap day. You are also having a crap day, for different reasons. Sorry to hear that

"it's just another day of feeling unappreciated"

Today was crap cos DH was poorly, or cos he generally isn't supportive? Would today being perfect have made up for a dull year of not being appreciated?

Facebook is full of my friends being taken out by their husbands and showered with lovely gifts.

What's that got to do with Mother's Day?

The world's gone mad.

Is Mother's Day now about women just wanting nice shit to show off on Facebook?

I had a lovely day, I booked a cheap and cheerful pub for lunch and then went for a costal walk. My friends had lovely days, one had a bbq and the other went for a walk in a nice park. None of these days involved DH’s buying gifts.

Your husband sounds like a dick and I’d never have people over if me or my family member had diarrhoea so you should have cancelled and taken yourself out alone! No cooking no washing up!

I booked lunch out, took my daughter .. it was lovely. Stop being so passive