Mother’s Day

[JMW1234]

Hi to all mums. I’m interested to know how many received Mother’s Day cards today. I have two adult children (not estranged) and didn’t receive one (I’ve received text messages) this often happens and it saddens me and makes me feel worthless (Am I being silly?). I’ve hinted in the past if they can’t actually see me on the day which is ok by me, please would they post one, I really love to receive cards. Hope all mums have had a lovely day. X

I have 2 adult DD’s, neither live at home. I’ve had cards with lovely words, flowers & thoughtful gifts. I haven’t seen them today due to other plans but have had messages - I’m happy with this, they have their own lives - but they took me out for a lovely meal earlier in the week.

I don't have children but I knew I wouldn't be able to see mum today so I dropped of her card and presents yesterday. My brother knew he wouldn't be able to come over and probably won't for at least a week but it wouldn't occur to him to post something beforehand.
It's important to me that you wake up to at least one card for birthday/MD etc.

I have 3 adult DC, I recieved 2 cards, one from my 2 DC that live at home and my cat and one from my DC that doesn’t live at home. I also received a gift from two younger DC. I arranged Sunday lunch out followed by a walk and my youngest and eldest DC were able to go. I then popped into my DM at her nursing home with an card and chocolates and feel truly blessed today.

No up I don't think you're being silly and think you should raise this. It doesn't need to be a row.

I got one but my ds is 6 and lives with me. I didn't send one to my mum because I'm seeing her next weekend and her present is too unwieldy to post she will get both then, I text her this morning

I don’t have adult children but I imagine that I would feel sad if my grown up DC didn’t remember me on Mother’s Day.

My DM lives too far away for us to visit but I sent her a card, flowers and Prosecco. Today we all went out for lunch with MIL and DP got her a card, flowers and chocolates and paid for the lunch.

I think you should say something to your DC if you are upset that they haven’t thought about you today.

Have they done something in previous years or is this normal for them?

I will always send a card to my mum on Mother’s Day and her birthday if I know I can’t see her to give it her in person

I have 3 adult sons.

None of them sent me a card. This is absolutely fine by me.

One gave me a pen that can turn into a screwdriver. This was a nice surprise. In return i showed him how to use my electric saw and we have built a raised bed together.

I’ve had flowers from one and a jigsaw from a set I’m collecting from the other, and a card from each one. DH took us all out for lunch, inc PIL. I sent flowers and a card to DSM. I went to church and had some quiet time thinking of my DM.

I have 2 adult DDs. Both gave me lovely cards and gifts and one cooked me a meal yesterday and I saw the other one today. Both are local to me though. Presumably your DC live a distance away? I don’t think you are being silly but don’t rate your worth on this alone. Are they normally kind and considerate DC?

How old are they? A lot of younger people don’t bother with cards these days, it can be seen as old fashioned and a message is considered just as good.

I used to think like this but I realised older generations do value cards, so I send birthday, Christmas cards to those I know appreciate it and see it as important. I do send a Mother’s Day card too, as I don’t tend to see her on the day and I know she likes cards.

I think it's really shitty to not send your mum a mothers day card. They can be forgiven when teenager/uni age, but past early 20s there is no excuse. A simple 49p card from Card Warehouse, and a £4 bunch of tulips from Morrisons is fine! Or a box of milk tray!

Sorry you got nothing @JMW1234 Happy Mothers Day!

I think you (or someone else) needs to let your adult DC know you're sad about receiving nothing though. ❤

Two adult children and one 9 year old. I got a card from each of them plus one dd got me a card from the dog! I got a board game, a sewing kit, a painting set, a bottle of gin, chocolates, a mug and a tiara. These were bought by adult DDs and dh. Today dh did all cooking/ cleaning too. I am very lucky.

Thank you very much for all of your replies. I’m pleased you all seemed to have had a nice day.
I was just a little sad yesterday that I didn’t receive any cards when I’ve hinted over the years I like to get my cards. For 14yrs I’ve always made sure DD1 gets presents from her two daughters as she is a single parent, this year I pushed the boat out for her as her sister gets nice gifts 😊. DD2 has a partner. I didn’t mention yesterday, DD2 has invited me to dinner this coming weekend, they’ve been decorating at mo, that’s fine with me, it’s just the silly point is, I would have liked to put up a card on the day. DD1 last night invited me for dinner one night this week. I do feel left out at times, especially as I’m pretty much housebound (long term severe ill health) looking after my autistic brother who lives with me. Anyway, I’ve had my rant, I think I’m just old fashioned and enjoy receiving cards 🤦🏻‍♀️ Thank you to everyone who has left a message, it was interesting reading your messages.

Ps I lost my mum 28yrs ago, however, I always make sure she receives flowers at the cemetery for special occasions. I’ve lived 2hrs away for 23yrs, I use a florist to deliver the flowers (with a special message) and I never forget.

Yes it has happened before a few times. 😞