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How's your 1st Mother's Day?

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MumDaisy1980 · 30/03/2025 18:00

Just want to say today was almost as I expected that , I already knew my husband had no plan whatsoever to make any effort on my 1st Mother's Day. Despite he had one week off - just for himself obviously.

By the end of morning, he could sense that if he didn't do anything , he would be in trouble. Then he quickly pop by to co-op get a card. Besides, I've planned a 5* hotel lunch with MY MOTHER. I really was almost wanted to ask him don't come along, if he didn't plan anything. And because he made the minimal effort to get a card without I told him to do that, I was not too angry on our way to lunch.

Then he thought things are over, he insisted on paying - but I wasn't impressed either, again it's about the effort he made. I could also afford it myself. He almost like just tag along, like it's my idea and then he just insist paying so he already made the effort. Then really we finished the lunch at back home. I am still not happy there is no special flower, when I saw so many man holding beautiful flowers yesterday make sure the flowers on time. I feel my 1st mother days so not special. my motherhood had not celebrated.

When my mum opened the card I got her , I didn't put his name down and he was searching his name. I shouldn't feel bad about it right? I utterly think he didn't deserve his name.

Besides yesterday he rushed and asked me did I get a card for HIS MOTHER, I was very angry inside but nevertheless is my mum-in-law I did give a spare Mother's Day card to him. so again in his mum point of view he did well, without giving credit to me.

Please share your 1st Mother's Day , I am keen to hear others. bad or good.

Thanks,

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MumDaisy1980 · 30/03/2025 21:19

And just want to update everyone

I had a talked about my feelings , ha well he said he doesn’t have the time to make any effort for Mother’s Day.

And he is very proud of himself that he didn’t ruin the day like he always did by making effort to be social and upbeat.

but I said why he need to feel consume so much of his energy to be around, it meant to be a family gathering unless he didn’t want to be there. Then he was like clarifying he wanted to be around.

I feel like he just don’t get it and no point to continue the convo. He kept asking me what should he do or what’s my ideal family look like. OMG. I didn’t answer because I felt like I said all I could say. He just don’t get it . Anyone got anything similar ???

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Leafy74 · 30/03/2025 21:24

Poor bloke.

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