Mother’s Day card and gift from DD or DD and DP

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If you have been with your husband and or DP for many years are your gifts to your own mother just from you to your mum or from you and your DP??

Been out for Mothering Sunday, gifts given to my mum and she thanks both me and my dp. He isn’t on the card, they are from me! I’m more likely to say they are from me and my DC than my DP.

DSis puts both her and her dp name on the card.

Im not saying either is more right or wrong, you do you. But what is considered the norm?

AINBU - dp has own mum
AIBU - you are a couple so gifts are from both

Both my mum's and his mum's cards and gifts are from both of us.

We both put gifts from both of us.

We each love and appreciate both mums so the cards and gifts are shared

We've only got my father in law with us now. We do fathers day from both of us. We both love him, I call him Dad too, and he does things for both of us. He is like a Dad to me.

My parents' mother's/father's Day are just from me and same with DH. Birthdays Christmas etc are from all of us.

Always from both

From both of us. We both appreciate our respective in laws and the gifts are a small token of that appreciation.

I give to my parents just from me. I don’t give them anything from my children, either.

My husband does the same.

I put from both of us on the card

Both of us and DC to my DM

Think DH just does him for his mum.

Interestingly, I was pondering this the other day as I ordered Mum’s card. I always put both me and DH’s name on it (he lost his Mum 25 yrs ago), but suddenly I was questioning whether to put his name on it

I love my MIL but she's not my mother. Card and gift are from DH only. Same from me when my Mum was alive.

That is what we do! Separately for mothers/ Father’s Day. From all birthdays and Christmas.

Just from me, but DP's parents don't do Mother's day or Father's day so it's only my family tradition really. I had to be very clear what I wanted out of mother's day when we had our own DC.

I love my PIL they're great but they're not my parents

Mother’s Day - just from me. My mum isn’t my DH’s mum.

I’m very fond of my MIL but she's not my mum. Card and gift are from DH only.

Birthdays / Christmas - cards / presents are joint.

From both of us. We are both grateful to have each others parents in our lives and they do alot for us both.

I used to put all our names down but last few years just mine, as my mum moved hundreds of miles away while i was pregnant with my first DC and stays just a couple of days (not with us) when she does visit. If we want to see them we have to go to them. If my kids didn't love going there i wouldn’t. She and my dad act and feel (from my perspective) more like a great aunt and uncle than grandparents. Certainly not the same close, hands on relationship they had with my sibling’s kids - which causes me a lot of sadness and resentment. Luckily my kids don’t know any different so aren't really bothered as they're still young. Some years i don't want to send her anything as shes been a really shit mother, certainly grandmother, at times, then she’ll buy my kids something and send it over a week or few days before so I feel I have to (guilt probably).

Both. I buy my mums presents but put my husbands name as well as she is his MIL. My married daughter sends me presents/cards from both her and my son in law. MIL dead now but when alive we did from both. Same goes for birthday/Christmas presents.

Gifts from both of us for mothers day/bday/xmas, sometimes from DC too or something separate from them. We are a close family though, if you're not then I dont think its massively weird.

I always gave my mum a card from just me. It doesn’t matter how well she got on with him, she wasn’t my husbands Mother. He always did the same with his mum.

I just put my own name on Mother’s Day cards / gifts for my mum; I assume DP just puts his name when he sends MIL flowers etc too.

Thinking about it, though, I’m sure my parents used to put both their names on my grandmothers’ cards!

I always put from both of us. Sadly DHs parents are no longer with us, nor is my dad so it's only my mum now. DH and I have been together since we were 17 and 19 and now in our 50s so he has been in her life a long time and she loves him like a son ❤️

Both

From both of us , I call my husband mother mam and vice versa so seems appropriate

I put from me, dh and our 2 kids.