Mothers day

[Holly1212]

My sons birthday falls on mother's day so celebrating his 3rd birthday is more important this year.
My partner has never done mother's day for me. This year there was no difference, no happy mother's day, card or present. There was also no breakfast done or cooked dinner, it was made clear I am expected to cook dinner.
I get this year as it's my sons birthday but every year is the same.
It's embarrassing when I get asked what I got or if I got a day off. I just lie as it's easier.
AIBU?

Today we are celebrating my son's 4th birthday. My mum is visiting from the UK (it's not Mother's Day here) and I made sure she still got a present even though we are celebrating more than one thing.

Why are you so passive? When it was made clear you are expected to cook dinner why did you not make it clear you would not be cooking? If you let people walk all over you, many will.

My children made me a cup of tea from when they were old enough for Mother’s Day. Obviously 3 is much too young but it’s a good tradition for the future. My 16 year old is at work today but text me happy mother’s day and I’ll make you a cup of tea later. It’s our Mother’s Day thing. So I would start something like that with your son when he is a bit older.

So … you are letting this happen. Did you discuss this either your partner? Like ‘it’s DS’s birthday and Mothers Day, so how about you do the dinner today (or the tidying up or the whatever’?
Next year, when they will not coincide, say ‘oh Mother’s Day this weekend! What shall we do? How about lunch at X’?
Get proactive if you are not happy either what happens now.

I would be making it very clear I wasn’t cooking dinner, so the options are he cooks, get takeaway or eat out.

I hope when it's Father's Day and his Birthday that the OP reciprocates accordingly.

OP, if he makes no effort for you, do not make any effort for him. In fact, why are you with him? Does he have any redeeming features at all?

it was made clear I am expected to cook dinner.
So you make it clear you’re not because it’s Mothers Day? Speak up for yourself Op.

Not unreasonable at all. Its one day a year to be spoilt...even if it is someone making you a cuppa. Just something to show you are appreciated

Don't lie to cover up a man's shame. Tell people your boyfriend doesn't do anything for you for mother's day when they ask.
Is he an otherwise excellent, intelligent man who fully parents and performs all household tasks and improves your life?