To think gossiping neighbours should mind their own business

[LindorChocolate]

I know there are good intentions from most neighbours when ‘letting you know’ about some bullying arsehole neighbour. But I find it’s that ones who gossip the most have no backbone when it comes to actually standing up against the bully when confronted and hope that you or someone else will do it for them.
The last two places I moved to, the first one, literally within a day or two of moving in, I was informed by a neighbour of the ‘arsehole’ neighbour I moved next door to. Told me really personal stories about this guy and his behaviour. Now, it turns out she wasn’t exaggerating and he was a handful to manage. But, when things came to a head one day, and I needed ammo to back up why I also found said guy to be an arsehole, to his face, I told him about the stories I had been told, thinking that we had trumped the arsehole in ‘solidarity’. But it turns out, gossiping neighbour wasn’t happy to be ‘outed’ to this guy. So, she’s happy to dish the dirt but not get her hands dirty.
The same has happened in my current location where again, as I’ve met more of the other established neighbours, they are all so quick to ‘let me know’ who I’ve moved next to and all of the horrible experiences/encounters they’ve had with said arsehole neighbour. This time I tried ignore any further gossiping stories as I wanted to try and see for myself. So, again, managed to appease the arsehole for 2 years with continuous gossiping attempts from the other neighbours eager to stir the pot. Then as expected the constant demands from the arsehole got too much and I stood my ground, thinking I have the solidarity of my gossiping neighbours for support. But, no. The second I ask them to back me up when discussing reporting this idiot to the council/authorities, they all go into denial that there is a problem. Fuckers!!!

Why would you think that repeating gossip to the person is ok? It is never ok.

I'm not sure why you have so many difficulties with neighbours, could you try keeping your head down a bit at the next place and see if that helps?

I love gossip.

Why would you think that repeating gossip to the person is ok? It is never ok.

Because a bully always hopes you are the only one experiencing their BS so they can twist it to look like it’s all in your head. But if they realise there is a majority opinion of their behaviour it should make them back off. Strength in numbers.

As you've discovered, it doesn't work like that, it just pitches you against both parties instead of only one.

Coming back to the point, why are you constantly falling out with neighbours? What is there to fall out about?

You seem to have a knack for falling out with neighbours perhaps it's you that's the problem.

I’m not falling out with any of my neighbours apart from the nightmare neighbour next door. What I’m saying is I don’t think it’s the other gossiping neighbours place to be informing me that I’ve have moved next door to a nightmare and to want the latest goings on about them, every time I see them. they don’t have to deal with them directly but I do.
They really should mind their own business.
For your info I have bought and sold 4 houses in different areas and it’s only the last 2 where there has been a problem. Both times, the nightmare neighbour has been unhinged.

Your neighbours gave you a heads up about the bad neighbour.

Why would they then want to get involved in your disputes?

When I first moved here a few neighbours told me about the nasty guy on the corner of my road and I was very grateful that they did.

I didn't then tell him that other neighbours had told me about him because that's shit stirring.

Then why do you keep getting involved with them? Just ignore and get on with your life.