Partner potentially ruined Mother’s Day

[tatattataa]

Partner went out for a ‘couple’ got absolutely hammered, didn’t take the baby monitor as promised.

Ive been awake with the baby for hours and he’s just enjoying his lie in.
I said I expect a lay in on my first Mother’s Day as I’m always up with the baby.

Am i being unreasonable to be angry that I feel he let me down and now I don’t fancy going out for Mother’s Day lunch because he will be groggy and hungover.

Yep. You have every right to feel royally pissed off.

He should not have gone out last night that was selfish

How disappointing. Is there somewhere you can go today, leave him at home.

I’m not going to vote because I can’t get worked up about one day that happens to have a title. But you’re definitely not being unreasonable to be fed up at not getting a lie in. That should be a regular thing, not just once a year! I would suggest starting that routine from next weekend, assuming you’re still on maternity leave and he’s at work?

Start saving your fuck off fund

I don't usually understand the angst around disappointing Mother's Day outcomes but as you're still in the early baby care stages then, yeah, it wouldn't have been much effort for him to lift the load off you today.

Do you get regular lies in? I wouldn’t blow a gasket because it’s Mother’s Day but if this is representative of his usual behaviour yes I’d be pissed off/ looking to make a change.

You could go and wake him up and go back to bed, monitor or no monitor, unless he was so paralytic that he’d be dangerous or he’s still drunk.

You're not unreasonable. Is there a reason why you don't get to lie in? I'd almost feel like he did it on purpose so you would still have to get up with the baby, I'd definitely be having a discussion about that.

Yes. Do this. Just get ready and go out without him

Exactly going out the night before Mother’s Day he must have known he’d be in no fit state the next day, definitely feels deliberate.

Selfish prick. Wake him up soon, give him the baby and go out by yourself for the day.

Unless the baby is BF I would wake him up and fuck off out for the day.

He’s a selfish sod. I’d also want to wake him up, give him the baby and go out.

He did that on purpose. Obviously.
You are not being unreasonable to be annoyed, I would be.
It's your first mother's day.
You need to sit down and talk like adults. I absolutely wouldn't be leaving for the day with the baby. He would love the peace and quiet.
Can you trust him to look after the baby hung over? If so I would piss off for the day alone.

@tatattataa do this for fathers day. Or similar.

Women really need to just start matching male energy. It's the only way.

Take your baby and go and spend the day at your mums if you can. Arsehole.

YABU for getting together with a man-baby. This is obviously not his first fu** up.

What a prince. You asked for a lie in, on mother's day, in advance and he should have respected that.

Ugh.

YANBU.

Do you normally alternate lie-ins at the weekend? If you do and you didn't get one yesterday in anticipation of today that's a bit shit but made up for by a double next weekend.

If you don't then you should and it being MD is irrelevant.

As with 99% of these posts the MD thing is a red herring. If you generally get treated well then MD isn't a big deal. If you aren't generally treated well then you've got far bigger problems.

It's shit but take your baby out and have a lovely day.

Stop tip-toeing around and wake him up. If the arrangement was that he would make sure you got a lie-in today, then help him honour that. If he's not safe to look after the baby he needs to do double shift next weekend to make up. I know you're awake now and tired and feel like your day is ruined but work out what the next best option will be for you.

What a prick. You shouldn't even need to ask for a lie in if you are the one usually up with a baby, a lie in should be a given every weekend. He should be getting up to take over so you can sleep in.